Lynn Messer’s family history

Two and a half years ago I reached out to the Messer brothers through social media and explained to them who I am, why I blog, what my background is, and that I wrote a blog post about their mom’s disappearance.

I told them if they wanted to share anything with my readers I would be honored to listen, and to be a voice for their mom.  I assured them that I understood if they didn’t have the time, energy, or interest to schedule this in their lives right now.

They both kindly replied.

Today I’m reposting some of the memories Abram has and things he thinks as he looks at the past and present. Here is a portion of Abram Messer’s reply from July 2016, “I’ve been thinking about reaching out to you to not only thank you for your piece, but to see if you would be interested in talking to me. One of the many issues that I struggle with having grown up in a home where destructive ideology  was normal is my desire to break, (I pray permanently) the sin cycle and demonstrate a Biblical example for my children to see. I would love to share more of our story with you. Thank you for following the prompting of the Holy Spirit to reach out to me.”

According to Abram Messer, and confirmed with the Ste Genevieve County Sheriff’s Office, Kerry Messer, was no longer cooperating with the investigation and hadn’t been since 2015.  And with this, I can tell you that Abram had been doing what no child, no matter what age, could ever imagine having to do. He had been assisting in an investigation that had questions about his dad, due to the disappearance of his mom.

During my conversation with Abram, he conveyed his appreciation and trust in the Ste. Genevieve County Sheriff’s Office. He explained they have, and continue to do a terrific job. He equally included the hours of interviews, over the last two years, they conducted with him. Abram mentioned how investigators stepped inside his head and pulled out information he wouldn’t have thought of on his own. He reflected that if the authorities need another 9 hour interview from his head he will give it every day. Abram has complete faith in their ability because they want to come to the truth. So if you have heard by word of mouth, or read in other news outlets, that the investigators aren’t doing their job it simply isn’t true.

*Disclaimer: There have been no arrests made in the disappearance of Lynn Messer. Kerry Messer remains innocent of any charges. I am not claiming a diagnosis or guilt; but simply pointing out concerns. See disclaimer in the margin.

I will walk you through a bit of Messer family history according to Lynn and Kerry’s son, Abram. While talking to Abram, I could have literally finished some of his sentences for him because I think I understand what he lived through growing up and I understand some of the mind-set I hear and read about his father.

I’ve often wondered why people are easily hoodwinked by the possibility of dual personality individuals. I wonder if it’s from having a good heart that’s always looking for the best in people; because who goes around looking for evil.  We tend to believe what we see. If we were at the theatre watching a play we would expect to see grand acting, but we don’t anticipate seeing it in the office, at church, at school, at the store, or standing in the driveway talking to a neighbor.

If you think it was easy for Abram to recall this history, I can tell you it wasn’t. There were a few times I thought our phone call had disconnected, but no, he needed time to process what he wanted to say. He loves his mom. He loves his dad.  He wants to help other families, other women, and other victimizers recognize abuse before it’s too late. He speculated that recent events have changed how he views his relationship with his wife and children. He believes human nature will do one of two things.

  1. Repeat the Cycle

  2. Go to the opposite extreme

We both agreed that there is a better option. Stop holding any person to a standard you want to achieve, or a low you want to avoid. Our standard is Jesus. If His heart, mind, way and will is what we chase after we will always be progressing in a good and healthy direction.

Survivors and witnesses share their stories because it could be the key that leads to freedom for other victims. Abram was clear on his objectives for speaking out about his family life and his mom’s disappearance. You can read, LYNN MESSER: 3 OBJECTIVES, by clicking here.

Abram thought for a long time his father lived two lives. Kerry seemed different at home than he was at church or anywhere else. Out of curiosity I asked, “How old were you when you came to this realization?”

Abram didn’t have to think about the answer, he knew it, “Between 10 and 12 years old.”

I asked because 10-12 seems to be a common age when children become aware of abusive or mentally unstable parents. Children often wonder if something is wrong sooner, but that tends to be the age when they know, and can understand it and verbalize it.

Abram conveyed that he grew up having a dread of daddy coming home from work; just knowing he would come home from work caused anxiety because he knew dad only cared about work. When at friends’ homes he envied the kids’ excitement when their daddy arrived home from work. They would excitedly run to the window waiting for their father to walk through the door to great them.

The term, “Ma” that Kerry uses in his Facebook posts on the, “Find Lynn Messer” page originated when the boys were around 14-15 years old. The term came from the Ma and Pa Kettle films. Lynn never liked the term, and requested that Kerry not use it but he chose not to respect her wish.  Abram didn’t use the term; to his knowledge, thinks only Kerry used it.

A point that has stuck in many minds is how dependable Lynn was for commitments she made; such as VBS (Vacation Bible School). Lynn spent months preparing for the church VBS program every year. On Monday, July 7, 2014, Lynn went to Wal-Mart and purchased supplies for the Tuesday VBS program. She was prepared. She was excited. She was scheduled to participate the next day; Tuesday, July 8, 2014, but Lynn was a no-show to VBS.

Kerry reportedly hid financial records from Lynn and refused to write balances in checkbooks leaving Lynn to constantly fret over finances.

In 1984 Kerry began working for Missouri Family Network as a lobbyist for pro-life, family and homeschool causes. M.F.N. was one of a few small organizations that worked across the gamut on these issues. Kerry has quietly encouraged M.F.N. supporters to write the checks in his name, Kerry Messer.  I’ve talked to other individuals who remember this as well.

Abram told about his dad’s decision to drive older used vehicles. There came a time about three years ago when a married couple from their church became burdened for Kerry because he didn’t have a dependable car to drive back and forth to Jefferson City. This sweet and caring couple went to friends and quietly fundraised. They happily sacrificed, knowing the Messers didn’t have money for another vehicle, and bought Lynn and Kerry a new car that would be dependable for work and family life. Weren’t they wonderful friends? Yes! But guess what? According to Abram, his dad didn’t want to drive the new car, especially not to Jefferson City, because donors wouldn’t want to give financial gifts to him if they thought he had enough money to purchase such a nice looking new car. Thus, his decision to stick with older models that looked the part of poor, financially needy lobbyist. I wondered what became of the car. Abram said his mom was in an accident with that car and it was totaled.

A man who couldn’t afford a dependable car and yet has accumulated a reported two and a half million dollars in assets while family members think he managed to keep it completely hidden from Lynn.

Abram mentioned overriding character questions he had about his dad.

  • It seemed there was one way to do everything; and it was his dad’s way?

  • Took an excessively long time deciding how to complete tasks with perfection being the goal; making it difficult to begin the task?

  • Didn’t like to involve others in completing projects or work tasks?

  • Money was hidden and hoarded?

  • Had a deep need to control everything and everyone around him?

  • Held a strong belief that husbands are to dominate their wives?

  • Dishonest, fraudulent, duplicitous personality. Changed according to his audience?

  • Took advantage of others to get what he wanted?

  • Lacked empathy; was willing to lie about his own kids to save himself?

  • Craved admiration; read the, “Find Lynn Messer” FB page?

  • Fabricated stories and fantasies of ideal love to attract attention, read the, “Find Lynn Messer” FB page?

  • Life was about him?

  • Didn’t bond with people?

Abram revealed that Lynn did suffer physical abuse at the hands of his father. Although Kerry took the time on the 11/22/2014 Facebook post to expand on his beliefs of women not violating the secrecy of marriage; specifically of his, “Bride” being wise to guard herself on what she shares about her husband with other women. She wisely did just the opposite! Kerry went on to post, “There are things husbands and wives know that no one should ever be told. The home is a place where virtually every social taboo no longer applies. The home is where we all get to relax and drop all our guards (and dog gone it, everyone has gas – get over it). But you still don’t talk about many things in ways that violate your mate. And the list of such topics can get long. A little discretion affirms a lot of love!”JusticeForLynnMesser

Thankfully, Lynn, had shared with some women about the abuse she suffered in the home; abuse from Kerry, because social taboos are wrong for a reason. These women have reportedly fully cooperated with investigators and presented the truth that Lynn has not been able to offer in person.

I often say, if a woman is strong enough to stay; she is strong enough to leave.

Did Lynn finally realize her husband was not capable of change and decided to adjust her life? Did she fail to realize he was willing to keep toxic control with any means necessary?

If you believe your life may be in jeopardy; please listen to me as I gently, but firmly, tell you, “Leave immediately.” Go to the authorities. Go to Domestic Violence. Go to  a counselor. Document the abuse in every way possible. See: It is Real You are Write.  If you plan on confronting your abuser about his toxic ways it is best to do it in the company of a witness or witnesses. See Toxic Intervention. Scroll down the left margin of this blog for, “Articles: Other Sources” and “Solutions-Hotlines-Help.”

I will leave you with this quote from Abram,

“To know in the middle, of not knowing what happened, that God did not wake up the morning of July 8, 2014, and say, ‘Wow, I didn’t see this coming!’ I know he will use all this to our benefit;  to change us, to mold us…there is some solace to that.”

 

*Disclaimer: The above thoughts and memories do not come from me. These are someone else’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the ideas or opinions of this website.  I am committed to publishing works of integrity. In that spirit, The testimony presented in this letter does not constitute legal facts, a guarantee, or a prediction regarding the outcome of advice given, or of future events.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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My original interest in the Lynn Messer case

Today I’m addressing the reasons for my interest in the Lynn Messer case.  

For those who need a quick recap:  Lynn Messer disappeared July 8, 2014. We now know that Lynn has been deceased the entire time and I have been told by law enforcement Investigatemultiple times that Kerry Messer, her husband, has not been cleared in the investigation surrounding Lynn’s death.  Kerry is a Missouri state lobbyist who represents family, homeschooling, right-to-life, gun rights/safety, and Christian/Biblical values. Lynn’s remains were found on her husband’s farm property November 1, 2016.

Within the first days of Lynn’s disappearance the entire farm acreage was mapped out. The land was searched with GPS tracking equipment in the daylight and in the dark, by search and rescue teams. It was also explored by professionally trained dogs that should have picked up the scent of the remains; especially in the hot July and August heat. All structures were checked. Results were recorded on a grid to show the areas had been thoroughly searched.

 

I’m coming from a background of once upon a time living with a mentally disturbed man. A man who most people thought of as being godly, personable, funny, sincere, a dynamic speaker, a soul-winning preacher, politically savvy, a world traveling evangelist with a heart for hurting and needy children, and a terrific communicator and writer. He lived his life on a stage; acting out the role he believed people wanted to see; soaking in the accolades.

This is what I experienced living with this man: a sometimes dark, disturbed, angry, dishonest, abusive, unfaithful, controlling, woman hater and unbeknown to me: pedophile who suffered from mental illness and a personality disorder. I never told people for years what took place in my marriage. In the ninth year of marriage I began to tell those closest to me as I  found out about his pornography addiction, mental illness, and a personality disorder. Why? See: My Destructive Marriage. I left him when our last two nights together caused me to believe it was probable our daughter and I would not again wake up alive.

Now he’s in prison, but I imagine he is still a grand actor.

So what if I’m not the only woman who lived a life where no one would have ever guessed what my home life was like?

The letters I receive from readers tell me the problem is global. And I’m not talking about wide-spread in the secular, non-Christian arena only. I’m telling you there are untold numbers of Christian women; including pastor’s wives and missionaries’ wives living in destructive, abusive marriages.

Because I read extensively on the subject of spousal abuse I can share that statistics report women who disappear under questionable circumstances are usually found dead; usually at the hands of their significant other and at the least, because of their significant other.

So when a local woman went missing almost four years ago my radar lit up. Of course the Christian community rallied around the husband because they believed this wonderful man would never have a role in his wife’s disappearance. I hope they were correct. Their hearts went out to him when he was being questioned about his wife’s disappearance. Friends thought time was wasting and should be spent trying to find his beloved, “bride” as he refers to her in his Facebook posts. He also refers to her as, “Ma.”

Please understand, just because you know a couple doesn’t mean you know what goes on in their home. I know from experience.

To be clear; I did not know what went on in this family’s home when I began writing about Lynn two years ago, and I had never talked to anyone in her family.

In July of 2016 a news article about the second anniversary of the disappearance of Lynn Messer was published in the Sunday, St. Louis Post Dispatch.  After reading Lynn’s husband’s Find Lynn Messer Facebook page for two years, and noting my numerous suspicions and concerns I decided to publicly write about Lynn. I shared my opinions and concerns regarding this Christian, homeschool mom who has been missing for two years.

I had a different perspective on the subject than many friends, the homeschool community, and the Christian community at large. I wondered if I would take a large dose of criticism; I took a small dose, and was surprised that the majority of people took issue with Kerry Messer’s Find Lynn Messer Facebook page. In fact, it was the main factor that caused people to think he was possibly guilty of wrong doing in Lynn’s disappearance.

The husband’s writings reminded me too much of my former husband. Not fair, I’m sure, but I’m being honest about my gut feelings. The posts Kerry Messer wrote about his bride on Facebook were like reading ponderings, convincing arguments, and outright lies that my former husband would have written about me; to make people believe and understand how much he loved me, needed me, and could never go on without me.  Non-truths; in the case of my former husband. I don’t know Lynn’s husband; I’m just saying there are oddities in this case.

I prayed numerous times for Lynn Messer while she was ‘missing.’  I questioned if she was dead when she first ‘disappeared’ but after reading the first few Find Lynn Messer Facebook posts, I thought she was dead.Find Lynn Messer

Husband, Kerry Messer, Missouri State Lobbyist in Jefferson City. Photo credit: Public Find Lynn Messer Facebook page.

Shortly after Lynn’s disappearance I received a financial support letter in the mail asking for local Christian, homeschooling families to send financial gifts to help the man, as a state lobbyist for the homeschooling community, during his time of difficulty. I tossed the letter in the trash and told my husband, “I’m not helping a man who I suspect holds guilt in the disappearance of his wife.”

I’m basing opinions off my background of studying a specific personality disorder. You see, people with narcissistic personality disorder, or tendencies toward it, have the same order of operations. What I read on Facebook reminded me of  narcissistic supply. Local friends and fellow Christians could have unknowingly been giving narcissistic supply. People were providing love, financial gifts, meals, written encouragement,  man-hours searching the 250 acre property for the wife, praise for the man’s character and marital devotion, prayers, and help around the farm. Maybe the support was correctly administered. I don’t know.

I’m not saying the man has been diagnosed with a personality disorder; I’m stating parallels I saw, which concerned me.

I figured that no one knew the hundreds of acres as well as him and, if a possibility existed that Lynn was dead and her husband was involved, he would know where the body was located.

Domestic abuse is not a respecter of age, gender, socio-economic background, nationality, or religion. I homeschool my children so I’ve had several Christian, homeschooling moms referred to me in my little corner of the world; St. Charles County, Missouri. All of the women I minister to report living with abusive husbands. The following are a handful of ways some of the more subtle abuse happens: The man keeps her living like she’s dirt poor while he enjoys a higher social standing. She eats simple and cheap meals while he eats the finest of food. She wears the same old clothes for years or decades while he wears new clothes. He travels and goes on expensive trips while she stays home to keep the house. He has control of the finances and often the transportation. He keeps tabs on what she eats and makes fun of her weight. He enjoys friendships with other women away from the home while she is expected not to talk to men without her husband present. He withholds relationship as a means of attempting to correct her thinking or behavior.

I hear from women who live in defeat and depression while believing the lies their husbands tell them. Lies such as all his problems are her fault, she isn’t talented enough, doesn’t make enough money, isn’t pretty, is boring, isn’t a good mother, isn’t a good wife, should me more like a woman the husband holds in high esteem. So many women in these relationships live in despair.

One concern all of these women want someone to know is…if they turn up dead or missing, please know their husband did it. Most of these women have been threatened by their husband and they think he’s capable of following through on the terrorizing warning. 

Many counselors don’t get it. The man seems so put-together at counseling sessions and many Christian counselors will not reprimand a man in the presence of the wife. Read more about problems with the false sense of male entitlement here. These women can end up suicidal when they fail to find understanding or help, or they can end up dead because the husband doesn’t want anyone to find out the truth she knows about him.

Couple with this a wife reconciling in her heart and mind a public man who boldly teaches the word of God and prays, with the private man who secretly treats his wife in the home with ridicule, resentment, the silent treatment, physical, emotional, psychological, and/or sexual abuse due to his addiction to pornography. This may leave a woman unable to grasp reality because she has been fed a constant stream of lies.

These women can’t give enough praise to make their man feel as special as he deems himself.  The man in return doesn’t have kind works of affirmation or appreciation for who she is, nor does he recognize anything of value she provides. See: To Live But Not Exist.

These women may feel like they are crazy, will never be able to please their man, are only making life worse, and would be better off dead; or they may fear for their life like I did once upon a time.

If this was Lynn’s life I wish I could have talked to her. I would have embraced her, cried with her, prayed over her and told her, “It’s not your fault. Don’t believe it. You’re beautiful, capable, talented, sweet, fun, caring and needed. You are lovable.”  Lynn 2

I wondered what their kids knew and thought; opinions, facts or questions that hadn’t made it to the media. They are grown adults and I couldn’t imagine how they endured through the two years of not knowing where their mom was or what happened to her. They are who my heart went out to; and the grandchildren.

My prayer was for closure to come to those who loved and valued Lynn.

As someone who had to learn to look for the thread of truth woven in a story or statement there were a few comments made on the Find Lynn Messer Facebook page, early in the investigation, that made me pause and wonder. These statements stood out to me and didn’t leave my memory. Maybe I have an over active imagination but I truly had to learn to read my ex-husband in this way in an attempt to keep myself and my daughter safe.

Located in a July 12, 2014, Find Lynn Messer Facebook post:  “In closing: For those of you who know Lynn best – you understand when I say that she is the strongest work horse on our farm. And, for those of you who know me best – you understand from Luke 14:5 that I only paraphrase Jesus’ figurative teaching, when I say that the only reason I am not with you in worship this morning is because ‘my ox is in a ditch.'”  I wondered if she was literally in a ditch or hole somewhere on the property! Where were the animals placed when they died? To me, it sounded like he knew where she was located.

Located in a July 12, 2015, Facebook post: “…to be honest, I am torn between two opposites. First is that I have to admit not being able to focus due to so many stresses, and the conviction to be transparent about it when I don’t want to be.” About what did he not want to be truthfully transparent; despite the conviction that he should be transparent?

Located in a July 12, 2015, Facebook post: “I am at a loss as to how to interact with our family members and even my own grandchildren.” Was there a sense of guilt keeping him from fully engaging and bonding with his precious family?

There were literally dozens, if not hundreds, of more glaring comments that were alarming to me. Some where I wondered if he was admitting to the crime. My former husband was exhilarated by dropping clues because he knew he was far more intelligent than people around him and it gave him a kick to think he outsmarted them right in front of their face. I’m sure he was astonished at how easily I was deceived and manipulated by his deceptions and sins against our marriage covenant. You may think this is sensationalism…but women who have survived abusive men know this is all in the realm of possibility. I hope the parallels surrounding Lynn’s case are simply coincidental.

If you disappeared or had mysterious circumstances surrounding your death, wouldn’t you want someone to persist until an answer was found and/or justice was served? This is another reason I continue to write about Lynn Messer.

 

The writer of the Find Lynn Messer Facebook page allows me opportunity to educate my readers on how there are multiple ways to look at a person. For teaching purposes the page can be taken at face value (true), or as an alternate reality (made up stories) or possibly coming from an unstable and/or criminal mind. Kerry Messer is a public figure which makes this a public interest case since he fund raises from the citizens of Missouri to provide for his professional and personal finances through his organization Missouri Family Network. People want to make informed decisions on how and where to spend their money. Lynn Messer’s sons and extended family continue to point out what they think are moral and ethical issues which they have witnessed by Kerry Messer. I do not write these posts or publish letters as a professional in any field of expertise, but rather to educate my readers from the life experiences through which I have lived. See the disclaimer in the side margin. I simply raise questions so we can consider different viewpoints. Opinions are solely mine.

 

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Top photo credit: Find Lynn Messer Facebook profile picture

Further reading on the disappearance of Lynn Messer:

St. Louis Post Dispatch, July 17, 2016,: Missing woman case tears apart Jefferson City lobbying team

Facebook: Find Lynn Messer

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Lynn Messer case: Kerry not cleared

UPDATE: THE MEMORIAL SERVICE HAS BEEN CANCELLED. I THANK THE CHURCH FOR DOING THE RIGHT THING. I’VE BEEN GIVEN MULTIPLE REASONS FROM DIFFERENT PEOPLE: THAT THE PASTOR AND DEACONS ARE NOT PLEASED WITH KERRY’S ONGOING BEHAVIOR, KERRY’S DIFFERENT ACCOUNTS OF ALREADY REPORTED INVESTIGATIVE INFORMATION, SAFETY CONCERNS, POSSIBLE PROTESTS, CHURCH MEMBER’S CONCERNS ABOUT KERRY’S RELATIONSHIP WITH SPRING THOMAS. I APPRECIATE THIS READER’S WORDS THEY INCLUDED IN A LETTER TO THE CHURCH THIS WEEK, “I cannot understand why you would choose to be more conduit to Kerry’s deception as the “grieving” spouse on Sunday.” THIS LETTER BY J. LEE GAVE BIBLICAL PRECEDENCE FOR CANCELLING THE SERVICE: ZECHARIAH 7: CLICK HERE TO READ THE LETTER.  

I’ve been hearing from several people who have received communication from Kerry Messer this week regarding the memorial for his deceased wife, Lynn.

They  are confused because they are being told that the investigation is closed, that JusticeForLynnMesserKerry has been cleared in the investigation of Lynn’s disappearance and death, and that Kerry did not become involved with Spring Thomas until 15 months after Lynn’s disappearance. 

“How do we know who to trust; Kerry, family members, you, media? Where do you get your information and how do you know it’s true?”

Thank you for asking.

I have four sources: the Ste. Genevieve County Sheriff’s Office, Lynn’s family members, Lynn’s friends, and other media sources. Detective White always proves to be approachable and answers questions as best he can. Often he can’t comment, but when he can he does.

I called Detective White today, August 18, 2017 for clarification. I don’t want to publish false news, misinformation, or downright lies. I asked permission to pose a few questions so I can clear up questions that some of my readers have, and to find out if investigative circumstances have changed since I talked to him a few weeks ago.

Questions are mine.

Answers are from Detective White of the Ste. Genevieve Sheriff’s Department.

Q: Has Kerry Messer now been cleared in the investigation of Lynn’s disappearance and death?

A: No.

Q: Has Abram been cleared in the investigation of Lynn’s disappearance and death? 

A: No comment. (Later he went back to this question for clarification as best as he could give.) Abram continues to cooperate with the investigation through law enforcement; answering questions when we have them. That cannot be said of Kerry Messer. 

Q: I’ve heard that the investigation has been closed. Is this true?

A: No.

Q: Word is getting back to me that Kerry is claiming the relationship between he and Spring didn’t begin until 15 months after Lynn’s disappearance. 

A: I don’t know the source of that information but it didn’t come from law enforcement. 

Here is a quote from the St. Louis Post Dispatch,  “But Schott, of the Sheriff’s Department, said detectives had confirmed a relationship between Kerry Messer and Thomas months earlier — about eight weeks after Lynn Messer disappeared.”

Q: I’m aware the Ste. Genevieve County prosecuting attorney’s wife passed away this spring. I don’t know if that has affected his position, but I do understand that his term is almost finished. Could this mean the investigation will remain at a stand still until a new prosecuting attorney comes on the scene?

A: No comment. It is true that prosecuting attorney Carl Kinsky’s term will be finished in 2018. An election will be held to fill the office.

Click here for Sherae Honeycutt’s interview: Lynn Messer laid to rest, questions remain. Major Jason Schott, “We won’t stop until we determine what caused Lynn’s death.”

Sherae Honeycutt: “What would you say to someone who might say this case is dead, you don’t have any suspects, you have inconclusive evidence at this point; what would you say to them?”

Major Jason Schott: “There may be stuff that we’re currently looking at that we cannot talk about because it is an active investigation.”

This gives me great hope that they believe they can solve the question of how Lynn died.

Below is more information on the timeline of Kerry and Spring Thomas’ relationship.

This is what Aarron said in the “Who is Spring Thomas?” post: “At the six week point of the investigation into mom’s disappearance Spring confirmed in a written statement that she was in fact in a relationship with my dad. After she made her statement to police she messaged Abram and in an odd conversation and asked Abram if it was appropriate for her to continue to participate in searches. Abram was flabbergasted; he had no idea why she would ask that. See, the only people aware of Kerry and Spring’s relationship at that time was Spring, Kerry, and investigators. Abram has since reflected that the purpose of that discussion was to identify if police had told him about the relationship.”

 

This was reported in the Misssouri Times: Son calls for Messer to come clean.

“No one is naive enough to believe this was a new relationship,” Abram said. “There was no time to have a relationship, no opportunity to spend meaningful time with someone. I don’t know how my father could say that they were just friends. It was way more than a friendship. Besides, I don’t know what kind of friends you need to take Viagra or Cialis to visit.

“While we were trying to figure out when this relationship could have started, we realized we had been taking cattle up to her farm for years,” Abram said. “I was never comfortable with the way my father acted around her. She acted like a boyhood crush had visited. Then we figured out why there was this sudden rush of stress.”

 

Daily Journal Online: Son shares another perspective on disappearance. “It was over a year after my mother went missing, whenever we started doing some more investigating after finding out my father had been hiding a relationship with another woman since August of 2014,” said Abram. “That is aside from the woman he claims he was pursuing as soon as eight weeks after my mother went missing. When we found all this out we began to question the things he was saying and that’s when we found out that she never went to any of those counseling sessions alone.”

 

St. Louis Post Dispatch: Missing woman case tears apart Jefferson City lobbying team. 

Both of Kerry Messer’s sons, Abram and Aarron, now doubt aspects of their father’s accounting of events relating to the disappearance of their mother.

Moreover, the sons are bitter over Kerry Messer’s decision to begin what their father describes as a romantic but chaste relationship with another woman — a decision that they say raises questions and sullies the reputation of the Missouri Family Network.

“For the first time in 39 years I kissed someone other than my wife, Lynn. If you want to call that an affair, then you call it that term.”

In an interview last week, Kerry Messer said his relationship with Thomas began around Christmas 2014 — about five months after his wife disappeared.

But Schott, of the Sheriff’s Department, said detectives had confirmed a relationship between Kerry Messer and Thomas months earlier — about eight weeks after Lynn Messer disappeared.

Messer said in an interview that he disclosed the relationship to police voluntarily and upon advice from pastors.

However, police say Messer first told them about Thomas only after authorities already had learned of the relationship from her, while visiting her farm. Hours later, police say, Messer called them to disclose the relationship.

Schott said Thomas was seen by police among search parties organized soon after Lynn’s disappearance. Police said she has refused further questioning.

On to a different topic: The Memorial

Several readers have said they have attempted to call and talk to someone at First Baptist Church Festus Crystal City without success. Without exception, everyone gets a recording. Some have left calm messages asking the church to reconsider their position and listing their biblical reasons for calling. 

How has it gone for you?

I called this afternoon for an update on their reconsideration of holding or not holding the memorial service. Again, I received a recording. I didn’t leave a message since no one has been successful in receiving a call back. There has not been a courtesy reply or a public statement.

Possibilities have gone back and forth, but I have nothing definite… so I’ll wait to update you.

If you have heard that the memorial has been cancelled, rescheduled, or moved, please comment below and let me know.

Multiple readers sent letters to the church this week: Read previous posts for 3 letters, Abram Messer’s response, and my response.

 

 

#JusticeForLynn fundraiser: YouCaring

Update on Lobbyist Kerry Messer

You…you who read this blog and take action…I want to thank you for your time, heart, and accomplishment. You have once again made a difference and impact through prayer, writing letters/emails, and making phone calls.

Kerry Messer is a Missouri state lobbyist whose wife, Lynn Messer, disappeared July 8, 2014. We now know that Lynn has been deceased the entire time and I have been told by law enforcement that Kerry Messer has not been cleared in the investigation surrounding Lynn’s death.

Here is the long awaited update on our requests to have Kerry Messer removed from grass roots activismlobbying for various organizations in the state of Missouri. Kerry has lobbied for homeschooling rights, family values, right to life causes, Samaritan’s Ministry/health sharing, gun safety, Christian child care, the Missouri Southern Baptist Convention, and Christian/biblical values. We think conflicting dialogue by Kerry about his wife and her disappearance, his detrimental treatment of his sons and their families, and his ongoing relationship with Spring Thomas while his wife was missing for 2+ years show Kerry is not above reproach, and are valid reasons for his removal from all of these organizations; but especially from Families for Home Education.

Your appeals are working!

I’ll start with the best result: Families for Home Education officially dropped Kerry Messer from their principal/lobbyist listing as reported on the Missouri Ethics Commission website. Although I was saddened and frustrated by FHE’s lack of desire to biblically deal with this earlier, I’m grateful they finally decided to protect homeschool parents and children from the ramifications of being associated with, and represented by, Kerry Messer at the state level. Thank you for not taking “no” as an answer from FHE. Your persistence paid off! They have not removed Kerry Messer from their website, so it looks like FHE may still be associated with him.  I have yet to see a statement from the FHE board addressing their reasoning for removing Kerry Messer.

FHE still needs to take down pictures and articles referring to Kerry Messer. Please call FHE leaders and remind them that the website needs updated to reflect that Kerry Messer no longer lobbies for the homeschooling community. As you can see in the below FHE contact list; and the last I knew, they were having a difficult time finding people willing to serve FHE in leadership positions.

Region 1: Erin and Charyti Jackson (660) 582-5903                    FHE Region map 2 updated 5-5-16

Region 2: Vacant—leave a voicemail: (877) 696-6343

Region 3: Bill and Cyretta Holbrook (877) 696-6343 ext. 3

Region 4: Dan and Mavis Dey (573) 239-3785

Region 5: Vacant—call: (877) 696-6343

Region 6W: Vacant—call Al and Sheryl Schmidt (417) 859-7908; 1-877-696-6343 ext. 62

Region 6E: Al and Sheryl Schmidt (417) 859-7908; 1-877-696-6343 ext. 62

Region 7: Vacant—call Al and Sheryl Schmidt (417) 859-7908; 1-877-696-6343 ext. 62

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Phone calls to the Missouri Southern Baptist association took place months ago. Kerry was officially removed 12/9/2016.

Next, Samaritan Ministries International also discontinued their association with Kerry Messer. This took some back and forth dialogue from “yes, he still lobbies for us and we believe in innocent until proven guilty” to…”he hasn’t worked for us for 10 years.” Samaritan Ministries dropped Kerry Messer 5/16/2017.

Alliance for Life, phone # 417-598-1040: Works mainly with Sam Lee. They do not currently employ Kerry or anyone else as a lobbyist. They need to be encouraged to call the Missouri Ethics Commission and have Kerry’s name deleted from their listing. Missouri Ethics Commission phone (MEC) # (573) 751-2020.

Americans United for Life, phone # 312-492-7234: There has been no success in reaching a representative. Another reader contacted Americans United for Life on June 6 and again on July 12; by email and through Facebook, but has not received a response. They continue to be listed on the MEC website as one of Kerry’s principals. If you would like to call them, please encourage them to contact MEC # (573) 751-2020 if they desire to delete Kerry Messer as their lobbyist.

I spoke with  MISSOURI ASSOCIATION OF CHRISTIAN CHILD CARE AGENCIES, INC. (phone # 660-347-5982) around the first of April. MACCCA was contacted two more times but has not responded and MACCCA is still listed on the MEC website. If they want to remove Kerry Messer on the MEC listing they need to call MEC: phone # (573) 751-2020.

Missouri Family Network is Kerry Messer’s own organization from which he works in Jefferson City.

Missourians for Personal Safety, phone # 816-455-2669 recently said that Kerry hasn’t worked for them for years. This is a completely different statement than I received in April 2017, when I spoke with Kevin Jamison. I’m not sure why they gave two different statements.

April 2017: Yes, Kerry represents them. They have been pleased with how Kerry has been very honest, upfront, and forthright with updates on everything. Kerry informed them when Lynn went missing, Kerry told them about his relationship with the other woman, told them when Lynn’s remains were found, and informed them when he, Kerry, secured Lynn’s dental records for the authorities; and just in time because they were about to be destroyed. Mr. Jamison said everybody but Kerry (referring to his colleagues, knew Kerry’s wife was dead and wouldn’t be returning).

Missourians for Personal Safety may need reminded to have their deletion of Kerry as their lobbyist reflected on the record at the Missouri Ethics Commission.  MEC Phone # (573) 751-2020.

Thank you for you caring attention to help protect the Christian and family value voter’s interests in the state of Missouri. You made a difference!

UPDATE: 8/3/2017, 8:40 AM: I received word that FHE is restructuring its lobbying efforts in Jeff City.

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Lynn Messer 3 Years Later: New Q’s & A’s

 

July 8, marks the third anniversary of the day we were told Lynn Messer Lynn 1disappeared from her home. Interestingly though, I have noticed recent posts on Kerry Messer’s Find Lynn Messer Facebook page changed the date of Lynn’s disappearance from July 8 to July 7. I wonder why?

Lynn vanished from the bed she shared with her husband, Kerry Messer, a Missouri state lobbyist for Christian, Biblical, homeschooling, pro-life and family values.

Kerry told his sons and the authorities that a storm woke him up around 4:00 a.m. and that is when he noticed his wife was missing.

In honor of this three year anniversary let’s help Lynn’s sons with legal and investigative fees to achieve #JusticeforLynn.

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New questions and answers are at the end of this article.

  • Click on colored text to link to the original published article in below paragraphs.

In the first week media stated that Lynn was reported missing by her husband from the family farm, “When Kerry still couldn’t locate her he became increasingly concerned and called 911 to have the Ste. Genevieve County Sheriff’s Department come out to help assist.”  Abram and Aarron Messer, Lynn’s sons, insisted that it was Aarron who placed the call early in the morning, July 8, 2014. The dispatch recording verified Aarron Messer was the person who called law enforcement. 

The public was told, “Evidence at the scene indicates she may be in physical danger.”  

“She has a broken right toe and does not have her walking boot with her. Messer’s purse, cell phone and other personal items were left at her home.”

Law enforcement,  trained dogs, and searchers wearing GPS units searched the entire property. “People wore GPS units on them so we knew what areas we were covering and how dense we were covering them. Once one crew would get done with an area we would send another crew back in the same area with new eyes and different dogs.”

“Messer’s husband had mowed the property and moved the cattle. The sheriff said this becomes a problem for search dogs trying to follow a scent — one dog goes one way while another goes the other.”

During the first days Kerry Messer was quoted, “I could not count the number of specially trained dogs and handlers, all fitted with real-time GPS tracking being fed real-time into a base computer to provide us with a huge map showing the entire path (color coded) of each individual dog throughout the entire day and night.”

”They even reorganized and did a special night-time simultaneous ‘grid search’ in which the entire army of searchers were broken into teams which then swiped the entire farm in small bite-sized pieces.”

“Sadly, this initial search and the outstanding performance of this massive effort produced no fruit other than helping us know with a high probability that Lynn is not physically located on the farm.”

A month after Lynn had been missing Kerry Messer addressed Lynn’s medications in the media.

“The only thing we have got to go on is that her prescribed pain medication could have had an adverse effect on her mind.”

Kerry hopes that it will help others to understand that they may not be looking for someone who knows she is Lynn Messer. He believes that it’s the only real explanation.

“All we know is that the pain pills your doctor prescribed can have a severe reaction, causing you to be totally confused. We fear that you may not even know for sure who you are.

“This confusion can lead you to be fearful of people around you and cause you not to trust anyone. It can also lead you to go places without understanding why you are there.

Sheriff Gary Stolzer. Ste. Genevieve Sheriff County:  We have sent computers off and different things to have tested and analyzed by other people, but the case is just taking its course. We will continue to look into any leads we receive.” 

During these numerous interviews, and in Kerry’s long letters on his Find Lynn Messer Facebook page, he actively reminds the public of his suffering, loneliness, and struggles while missing Lynn. In fact he still writes about his shredded heart over missing Lynn.

What has been frustrating to Kerry’s sons, Lynn’s family and friends, and those who have followed the story is that law enforcement found out just weeks after Lynn ‘disappeared’ that Kerry was already in another relationship with a woman named Spring Thomas. Spring had been a family friend for many years and according to Abram and Aarron Messer there was, and is, more to the relationship than what is being reported.

A recap of events wouldn’t be complete without mentioning ‘the note’. Kerry showed a note to law enforcement; a note that he said was written by Lynn. Kerry refused to show the note to his sons. “Kerry said in the very beginning, law enforcement asked him not to talk about the letter. He didn’t understand why, but just complied. Kerry said he avoided talking about it and the few people he had already told he went to and asked them to not say anything because they wanted to honor what law enforcement had requested.”

According to Abram and Aarron, “for the first 11 months the police refused to allow anyone to see the note. I understand investigators need to withhold information but this was not the case. As they had shared with me, they had refused to show us the note because Kerry asked them not too.”

Lynn’s remains were discovered early November, 2016, on Kerry Messer’s farm property.

At this date forensics tests have concluded that Lynn has been in the elements, in that spot (according to one report), about the entire time, and hair samples showed no evidence of a cause of death. 

I, Carolyn, spoke with Detective White of the Ste. Genevieve Sheriff’s Department on Monday, July 3. He was generous with his time and answered the below questions for me.

I will present them in question/answer form.

Q: Were Lynn’s recovered remains a complete skeleton?  Were there any remains missing?

A: They were consistent with remains that have been in the elements since 2014.

Q: When I spoke with you this time last year you confirmed that Kerry Messer was no longer cooperating with law enforcement. Is this still true?

A: We are not in contact with him and have not reached out to him. We were told last year that he no longer wanted to speak to law enforcement and we have respected his wishes. He did cooperate when Lynn’s remains were found on his property. He could have required us to have a search warrant but he didn’t.

Q: Does this also mean you have no contact with Spring Thomas?

A: Yes

Q: Do you know if law enforcement has been able to search Spring Thomas’ house and property?

A:  I do know, but cannot say. I will say I have not seen the inside of her house.

Q: Kerry Messer has changed, or authorized the change, for the Find Lynn Messer Facebook cover photo. It now says his “page is the only official family and authority-sanctioned page.”  I think most people equate authority with law enforcement. Has law enforcement sanctioned this page?  I’m concerned about what this implies. Could Kerry be referring to law enforcement when he references ‘authority-sanctioned’?

A: No,  we don’t sanction anything.

Q: Has Kerry Messer been cleared of the investigation into Lynn’s death?

A: No, he has not.

Q: The death certificate currently reads, “Undetermined.” Could this status change in the future?

A: A cause of death will not be stated until the investigation is closed.

And lastly, to hear “We won’t stop until we determine what caused Lynn’s death.”  Spoken by Major Jason Schott of the Ste. Genevieve Sheriff’s Department in an interview last week had me thinking there is evidence. Now we just wait on timing for the investigative puzzle pieces to fit together.

I doubt Lynn disappeared from her own bed on a stormy night only to be found dead two years later in an area that was professionally searched by search and rescue dogs, helicopters, and searchers wearing GPS units to map/grid where they had searched.  A woman whose hair samples showed no evidence of a cause of death. As far as we know there were no weapons found with her. What happened to Lynn?

In honor of this three year anniversary let’s help Lynn’s sons with legal and investigative fees to achieve #JusticeforLynn.

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Lynn Messer: Media Release Statement, Letter to the Sheriff, Kerry changes FLM page

Above photo: Some of Lynn’s favorite flowers were dark red roses

For those of you who have followed the Lynn Messer case I am posting her son Abram Messer’s statement which he released to the media today. (If you are new to this case you may click  “Lynn Messer” in the margin or header; depending on the media platform you use.)

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Photo Credit: J.B. Forbes, St. Louis Post Dispatch

PRESS RELEASE: DISCLAIMER: This press release is Abrams opinion. I will preface it with he thinks this, but it has not been proven and no arrest has been made.  Please recognize that their memories of the events described in this press release may differ. 

So as many of you are aware, I’ve been getting calls from media outlets in light of the information we received yesterday. Here is the statement which I have released:

“Our family is both saddened and heartbroken over the actions that my father has chosen.

No one should be surprised at the devastation which comes from choosing sin. But God is faithful and just to cleanse, forgive and restore us through the blood of the Lamb. He is also a God of justice, and we will stay the course in seeking that justice. So we are renewing our call in begging my father to come clean, and tell the truth so he can experience the peace which only comes through Gods forgiveness.”

There are many Christians who have deliberately decided to twist the Word of God only talking about forgiveness, choosing to ignore Gods commands for His people to be a people who pursue justice…. my friends this has nothing to do with vengeance. We are commanded by God Himself to stand for truth. We are commanded by God Himself to call out sin publicly (after we follow the Biblical steps confronting that sin privately; which yes we have done), no matter how much it hurts. 

Why? Because whatever pain and heartbreak we experience through out that process-—it is nothing compared to the spiritual pain and heartache which comes from complacency.

Please continue to lift our family up before the Throne of Grace. He is faithful… and I must decrease so that He will increase. Whatever you may be going through in your life remember that God is faithful and just to cleanse and forgive. But to receive His forgiveness and restoration we must all acknowledge our sin before Him. His long suffering love which He extends to us has limits which only He can define—for rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft. Repent, turn to Christ—only then will you experience His peace and rest. For when we plant our feet upon The Rock… there is no storm which can shake you.

LETTER TO THE SHERIFF’S DEPARTMENT AND ATTORNEY GENERAL’S OFFICE (From one of the GiveMe Chocolate readers who commented on the article “Lynn Messer Secretly Transported Across State Lines and Buried”

Last night, I sent this to the St. Genevieve County Sheriff, Major Schott and copied the Attorney General’s office.

“I am highly concerned about the lack of activity surrounding the disappearance – and now we know – death of Lynn Messer. Based on the publicly available information, it would seem that Kerry Messer was most certainly involved somehow in her death. I can only assume that law enforcement has even more information pointing in his direction. Nearly three years after her disappearance and nearly a year after the discovery of her body, we still have no action being taken toward Mr. Messer. It would seem that the Sheriff’s department did not adequately search the property in those early days or that the body was subsequently brought to the property after it was searched. Either way, action is called for here.

Today, I’ve learned that the St. Genevieve County coroner released the body to Mr. Messer only to have him take it over state lines into Arkansas without the knowledge of Lynn’s sons, sisters or mother. It would seem that the Sheriff’s department as the lead investigative agency would have certainly known that the body was going to be released and understanding the circumstances, they could have let Lynn’s family members know what was about to take place. These family members could have sought injunctive relief to block the release of the body to Kerry given the high level of suspicion surrounding him and his lack of honesty with Lynn’s family members as well as his reported lack of cooperation – and his girlfriend’s lack of cooperation – with the investigation. Unfortunately, St. Genevieve County didn’t afford Lynn’s family this option. That adds another layer of tragedy upon an already tragic situation.

I called Carl Kinskey’s office several months ago about the progress on the investigation and he said he was just waiting on the Sheriff’s department. Why hasn’t information been sent over to the prosecuting attorney’s office? Where’s the grand jury? Is this an open investigation at this time? I certainly hope that the Sheriff’s office isn’t withholding information from the prosecuting attorney’s office waiting for some kind of air tight case to develop in this very bizarre circumstance. I urge you to send the information you have on the investigation to the prosecuting attorney. “

 

Find Lynn Messer page update…

Did anyone else notice? Kerry changed the “Find Lynn Messer” Facebook page cover photo. It now says the page is “authority-sanctioned.” The sheriff’s office confirmed to me a year ago that Kerry and Spring have not been cooperating with the investigation since their relationship was revealed to investigators. Which authorities is Kerry referring to?

The same cover photo says Lynn is missing as of 7/8/14. Why did Kerry not include that she was found?

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And here is what Kerry Messer has to say about the ongoing investigation:

 

Click here to link to the full length news segment/video:… 

 

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Below is yesterday’s post:

Lynn Messer secretly transported across state lines and buried

Kerry Messer secretly transported Lynn’s remains across state lines for burial.

Aarron, Abram, and Elizabeth contacted family members this morning so they heard it from them first instead of from media.

Rumors have been circulating for the last 2-3 weeks that Lynn’s remains were going to be released to Kerry Messer in the near future. Kerry has posted on his Find Lynn Messer Facebook page that he intended to obtain Lynn’s remains soon.

My sources told me that Kerry informed his church First Baptist Church Festus/Crystal City that he in fact obtained her remains and buried them yesterday.  Lynn’s remains rest next to Grandma Messer. According to the funeral home a pastor was present at the grave side service; along with, Kerry, an unnamed woman, and two of Kerry’s relatives who were named.

Lynn’s sons had remained hopeful that as long as the investigation was ongoing their mom’s remains would not be released. They have reached out to investigators but do not yet have answers.

Aarron spoke with his dad, Kerry Messer, on two separate occasions this morning and this is what Aarron says transpired:

Aarron: “I heard that you buried mother yesterday?”

Kerry: “Why do you care?”

Aarron: “She’s my mother.”

Kerry: “And I’m supposed to be your dad.”

Aarron: “You…are…”

According to Aarron, Kerry hung up on him mid-sentence.

Kerry also stated that Lynn was buried by “the only family she has left, that actually love her.”

“This is who supporters of MFN are endorsing.  A man who takes the body of his children’s mother from the coroner in secret and buries her without a word to her own children, her mother, or her sisters; all out of spite because he is the primary suspect in her disappearance and death.”

Lynn’s remains were released from the St. Louis coroner’s office last week and Kerry had her remains transported to Arkansas. They were cleared yesterday and buried the same day. The sheriff’s office did not have a say in how this transpired; it was up to the coroner. The husband, even if he were sitting in jail, has control of the remains.

Was this a controlling, abusive act Kerry committed against his sons and their families?

This is no quick commute for Aarron’s  and Abram’s families, or for Lynn’s side of the family to visit Lynn’s gravesite.  What else can a father do to traumatize his children?

Lynn’s remains rest in Walcott, Arkansas, in Mount Zion Cemetery under the direction of Heath Funeral Home in Paragould, Arkansas.

Like Aarron, I too thought of organizations who continue to retain Kerry as their state lobbyist. Families for Home Education, is this the type of parents you are? Do you treat your own children in this way, or do you consider this highly dysfunctional? Why do you want someone like this representing you?

Make no mistake; Lynn’s remains being released to Kerry Messer in no way indicates he is no longer a part of the investigation into Lynn’s disappearance and death. The case is open and active with new information still being received by the Ste. Genevieve County Sheriff’s Office.

 *Correction: Lynn ‘ s remains were released from the Ste. Genevieve County coroner.

 

 

*Opinions expressed are not from me. There has not been an arrest made in this case and no one is presumed guilty until proven in a court of law.

 

 

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Lynn Messer: On Her Birthday

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Today marks Lynn Messer’s 55th birthday. Her last birthday on earth was celebrated a few weeks before her disappearance/death in 2014 at age 52. Today we will honor Lynn’s memory with photos of loved ones, and people she ministered to, who brought her great joy and purpose.

I continue to think of Lynn’s family; especially today as they remember her, miss her, and long for answers surrounding her death.

Please say a prayer for them that they will receive great comfort, clear answers, and Sovereign justice from their Heavenly Father.

Family, friends, and law enforcement are currently waiting for pathology and forensic reports to be completed and turned in to the F.B.I. There is no time line for this testing and the case remains open.

I still remember the morning our local homeschool group was notified that Missouri State Lobbyist, Kerry Messer’s wife, Lynn Messer was reported missing from the family farm in the middle of the night.  Our homeschool group was notified for prayer support and help searching for Lynn. My background of studying domestic abuse immediately sent up a red flag since most women who disappear, or who are murdered, are victims at the hands of their husband or significant other.

Lynn’s husband Kerry runs Missouri Family network which lobbies in Jefferson City for: ALLIANCE FOR LIFE, AMERICANS UNITED FOR LIFE, FAMILIES FOR HOME EDUCATION, MISSOURI ASSOCIATION OF CHRISTIAN CHILD CARE AGENCIES, MISSOURIANS FOR PERSONAL SAFETY (gun safety), and SAMARITAN MINISTRIES INTERNATIONAL.

For over two years Lynn’s family did not know where she was or if she was still alive. Her remains were found November, 2016, on the family farm on the far side of the cow pasture that had been in question since Lynn’s scent trail was originally found there by search dogs. The same cow pasture where Kerry Messer insisted his son Abram move the cows in the early morning hours of Lynn’s disappearance before the police had been called. It has been verified by investigators that Abram did not move the cows by choice, but rather at the demand of his father. The question remains; did Kerry purposefully destroy evidence of Lynn’s trail and location?

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It was reported by the Ste. Genevieve County Sheriff’s Department that Kerry Messer said the last time he saw his wife was before going to bed just before mid-night. Messer said he awoke to the sound of a storm and realized his wife was missing from their bed. He told the authorities that he searched the 250 acre property and came to the conclusion Lynn was not there.

*Click on quotes below for original published internet article and author. 

The local St. Louis Post Dispatch reported the morning of July 8, 2014: “The patrol said that Messer has a broken right toe and does not have her walking boot with her. Her purse, cell phone and other personal items were left at the home. She has a history of depression and evidence at the scene indicates she may be in personal danger, the patrol said, though they didn’t provide more details.”

“Lynn Marie Messer, 52, walked away from her 300-acre farm in the 6300 block of Route DD, and an endangered person advisory was issued Tuesday night by the Missouri Highway Patrol.”

July 16, 2014: “Lynn Marie Messer, 52, walked away from her home on her 270-acre farm in the 6300 block of Route DD. Her husband, Kerry, woke up at about 4 a.m. and noticed she wasn’t there. He told police he searched his home and property and wasn’t able to find her, and called police at about 8 a.m.” 

Lynn’s sons Abram and Aarron have pointed out that Aarron was the person who called the police. Their statements have been confirmed by the recorded 911 tapes that were aired on Investigation Discovery Channel Disappeared: American Gothic.

“On July 8, on a rainy, dark morning, as Kerry Messer tells it, Lynn, 52, got out of bed sometime before 4 a.m. while he slept and then walked away from the family farmhouse. She left without her keys. She left without her wallet and cellphone, and the passport she used on regular church missions to Ecuador.”

“An intense investigation started the morning Lynn was reported missing and after Kerry searched the common areas around their 250 acre farm where she would normally be found.”

When Lynn’s remains were found on the family farm: “Schott said all the items located with Lynn’s remains were collected and picked up by the FBI Forensic Team. They either took them or the sheriff’s department sent them to the Missouri State Highway Patrol crime lab and the St. Louis Medical Examiner’s office.”

According to the Ste. Genevieve Sheriff’s office, Spring Thomas admitted that she has been in a relationship with Kerry Messer since at least eight weeks after Lynn’s disappearance. Lynn’s sons believe it was significantly earlier than the given time line. Friends say they have seen Kerry with Spring, and he has been known to bring her to lunch/business appointments with him.

On Kerry’s Facebook page: Find Lynn Messer he still actively writes about his shredded heart, his loneliness, his lengthy stories about himself, and the memories of “Ma” his “Bride” interspersed with what seems like contempt for Lynn while telling all the things she couldn’t do right.

Spring Thomas is never mentioned by Kerry on the Find Lynn Messer FB page.

The Lynn Messer case remains open and the Ste. Genevieve County Sheriff’s Department maintains custody of Lynn’s remains. The family has told me that Kerry’s wish for Lynn’s remains, when they are released, is that they be donated to science. This is not the wish of Abram’s family or Lynn’s side of the family. After over two years of not knowing where Lynn was they do not wish for her remains to disappear. They want to know, “she’s at rest, and that they will have a place to take the grand kids and say goodbye.”

As for the forensics testing:  “I’m not sure what type of specific testing is being done,” said Schott. “It will depend on the results that come back to determine what we do from there. Once they give us results on what they are doing, then it may lead us in another direction.”

There have been no arrests made in the disappearance or death of Lynn Messer as of this date.

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