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Holly & Dave Ashley: Lynn Messer case

Holly and Dave Ashley recorded an interview: Redemption, Restoration and Recovery on Freedom through faith: The Kingdom Crossroad’s podcast.

Holly and Dave teach their court approved, Christian, domestic violence curriculum to those mandated by the courts. Holly consults churches and ministries; setting up biblical counseling resource centers and domestic violence, legal aid, counselor programs at their ministry and church locations. They have been involved in grassroots advocacy in the field of abuse for over 30 years. Holly’s work has been locally and nationally recognized and she has assisted local prosecutors in mock trials for high-profile ‘violence’ cases.

Holly and Dave have been working on the Lynn Messer case. She has much to say about Lynn, Kerry Messer, and the church that loves and welcomes Kerry.

If you have a heart for people fleeing abusive relationships you will find this interview educational.

Part 1: The first 8 minutes include Holly’s commentary on the Lynn Messer case. 

If the Part 1 link is overwhelmed/busy you can try this link for Part 1. It is written in Spanish, but if you click the orange arrow on the left, the podcast is in English.

Part 2: Who abuses? Men and women.

This is a precursor for a series of testimonies I will be publishing by people who are trying to leave, have separated from, or have divorced an abusive spouse.

It has been a goal of mine for a year to begin working toward changing our state laws in regard to child custody cases. As I have ministered to abused women for the last few years and heard story after story of their abuser deceiving and winning over the guardian ad litem to win full custody, 50/50 custody, or unsupervised custody of the children in cases of extreme abuse; I came to realize the system needs fixed.

My goal for the state of Missouri is to bring about change to our current legal system.  Our present day system does not mandate domestic violence training for people involved with family/divorce court. I would like to see judges, attorneys, guardian ad litems, social workers, law enforcement officers and church leadership trained to recognize domestic violence and deal with it accordingly. Domestic stats

If you would like your testimony to be included in my presentation, you may send me your concerns. Please type your story, short and to the point. You may include your name and address if you like, or if you’re in the middle of divorce court and don’t want to use your full name, you may use your first name or a fake name.

I don’t know who ever proposed that an attorney with no background in child development, domestic/spousal abuse, child abuse, psychology, psychiatry, social work, or zero understanding of personality disorders was made responsible for the current and future well-being of children. It literally turns out that most often the abuser, or unstable partner, is believed over the stable parent/partner/victim.

I’ve heard of women losing their sanity upon the court awarding full custody of the children to a documented abusive father. (This also applies to men who have been in destructive or abusive relationships.) There are new, published studies showing the majority of abusers are in fact believed over the healthy, stable person.

I’ve also watched women be left financially desolate while the man drags the court case out for years without having to pay his share of child support and bills. I’ve seen women walk away from receiving financial support and court mandated child support to escape the abuse and control.

Something needs to change and I’m willing to put in the time to see it happen. Please help me by telling me your story, or your loved one’s story, about an unsatisfactory encounter with a guardian ad litem or the one thing you would like to see changed in the process of navigating family court.

I in no way mean to bash the guardian ad litems, I’m just pointing out that they don’t have domestic violence training. How can they be expected, in minutes or hours, to see and figure out what likely took the victim years to conclude?

If you don’t want to publicly post your story, please leave an anonymous note. My blog adminstration receives your email address and I’ll resond to you through my private email.

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Lynn Messer’s Memorial Cancelled

UPDATE: THE MEMORIAL SERVICE FOR LYNN MESSER HAS BEEN CANCELLED.

I THANK THE CHURCH FOR DOING THE RIGHT THING.

I’VE BEEN GIVEN MULTIPLE REASONS FOR THE CANCELLATION: THE PASTOR AND DEACONS ARE NOT PLEASED WITH KERRY’S ONGOING BEHAVIOR, KERRY’S DIFFERENT ACCOUNTS OF ALREADY REPORTED INVESTIGATIVE INFORMATION, SAFETY CONCERNS, POSSIBLE PROTESTS, CHURCH MEMBER’S CONCERNS ABOUT KERRY’S RELATIONSHIP WITH SPRING THOMAS.

I APPRECIATE THIS READER’S WORDS WHICH THEY INCLUDED IN A LETTER TO THE CHURCH THIS WEEK, “I cannot understand why you would choose to be more conduit to Kerry’s deception as the “grieving” spouse on Sunday.”

THIS LETTER BY J. LEE GAVE BIBLICAL PRECEDENCE FOR CANCELLING THE SERVICE: ZECHARIAH 7…CLICK HERE FOR LETTER

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Lynn Messer case: Kerry not cleared

UPDATE: THE MEMORIAL SERVICE HAS BEEN CANCELLED. I THANK THE CHURCH FOR DOING THE RIGHT THING. I’VE BEEN GIVEN MULTIPLE REASONS FROM DIFFERENT PEOPLE: THAT THE PASTOR AND DEACONS ARE NOT PLEASED WITH KERRY’S ONGOING BEHAVIOR, KERRY’S DIFFERENT ACCOUNTS OF ALREADY REPORTED INVESTIGATIVE INFORMATION, SAFETY CONCERNS, POSSIBLE PROTESTS, CHURCH MEMBER’S CONCERNS ABOUT KERRY’S RELATIONSHIP WITH SPRING THOMAS. I APPRECIATE THIS READER’S WORDS THEY INCLUDED IN A LETTER TO THE CHURCH THIS WEEK, “I cannot understand why you would choose to be more conduit to Kerry’s deception as the “grieving” spouse on Sunday.” THIS LETTER BY J. LEE GAVE BIBLICAL PRECEDENCE FOR CANCELLING THE SERVICE: ZECHARIAH 7: CLICK HERE TO READ THE LETTER.  

I’ve been hearing from several people who have received communication from Kerry Messer this week regarding the memorial for his deceased wife, Lynn.

They  are confused because they are being told that the investigation is closed, that JusticeForLynnMesserKerry has been cleared in the investigation of Lynn’s disappearance and death, and that Kerry did not become involved with Spring Thomas until 15 months after Lynn’s disappearance. 

“How do we know who to trust; Kerry, family members, you, media? Where do you get your information and how do you know it’s true?”

Thank you for asking.

I have four sources: the Ste. Genevieve County Sheriff’s Office, Lynn’s family members, Lynn’s friends, and other media sources. Detective White always proves to be approachable and answers questions as best he can. Often he can’t comment, but when he can he does.

I called Detective White today, August 18, 2017 for clarification. I don’t want to publish false news, misinformation, or downright lies. I asked permission to pose a few questions so I can clear up questions that some of my readers have, and to find out if investigative circumstances have changed since I talked to him a few weeks ago.

Questions are mine.

Answers are from Detective White of the Ste. Genevieve Sheriff’s Department.

Q: Has Kerry Messer now been cleared in the investigation of Lynn’s disappearance and death?

A: No.

Q: Has Abram been cleared in the investigation of Lynn’s disappearance and death? 

A: No comment. (Later he went back to this question for clarification as best as he could give.) Abram continues to cooperate with the investigation through law enforcement; answering questions when we have them. That cannot be said of Kerry Messer. 

Q: I’ve heard that the investigation has been closed. Is this true?

A: No.

Q: Word is getting back to me that Kerry is claiming the relationship between he and Spring didn’t begin until 15 months after Lynn’s disappearance. 

A: I don’t know the source of that information but it didn’t come from law enforcement. 

Here is a quote from the St. Louis Post Dispatch,  “But Schott, of the Sheriff’s Department, said detectives had confirmed a relationship between Kerry Messer and Thomas months earlier — about eight weeks after Lynn Messer disappeared.”

Q: I’m aware the Ste. Genevieve County prosecuting attorney’s wife passed away this spring. I don’t know if that has affected his position, but I do understand that his term is almost finished. Could this mean the investigation will remain at a stand still until a new prosecuting attorney comes on the scene?

A: No comment. It is true that prosecuting attorney Carl Kinsky’s term will be finished in 2018. An election will be held to fill the office.

Click here for Sherae Honeycutt’s interview: Lynn Messer laid to rest, questions remain. Major Jason Schott, “We won’t stop until we determine what caused Lynn’s death.”

Sherae Honeycutt: “What would you say to someone who might say this case is dead, you don’t have any suspects, you have inconclusive evidence at this point; what would you say to them?”

Major Jason Schott: “There may be stuff that we’re currently looking at that we cannot talk about because it is an active investigation.”

This gives me great hope that they believe they can solve the question of how Lynn died.

Below is more information on the timeline of Kerry and Spring Thomas’ relationship.

This is what Aarron said in the “Who is Spring Thomas?” post: “At the six week point of the investigation into mom’s disappearance Spring confirmed in a written statement that she was in fact in a relationship with my dad. After she made her statement to police she messaged Abram and in an odd conversation and asked Abram if it was appropriate for her to continue to participate in searches. Abram was flabbergasted; he had no idea why she would ask that. See, the only people aware of Kerry and Spring’s relationship at that time was Spring, Kerry, and investigators. Abram has since reflected that the purpose of that discussion was to identify if police had told him about the relationship.”

 

This was reported in the Misssouri Times: Son calls for Messer to come clean.

“No one is naive enough to believe this was a new relationship,” Abram said. “There was no time to have a relationship, no opportunity to spend meaningful time with someone. I don’t know how my father could say that they were just friends. It was way more than a friendship. Besides, I don’t know what kind of friends you need to take Viagra or Cialis to visit.

“While we were trying to figure out when this relationship could have started, we realized we had been taking cattle up to her farm for years,” Abram said. “I was never comfortable with the way my father acted around her. She acted like a boyhood crush had visited. Then we figured out why there was this sudden rush of stress.”

 

Daily Journal Online: Son shares another perspective on disappearance. “It was over a year after my mother went missing, whenever we started doing some more investigating after finding out my father had been hiding a relationship with another woman since August of 2014,” said Abram. “That is aside from the woman he claims he was pursuing as soon as eight weeks after my mother went missing. When we found all this out we began to question the things he was saying and that’s when we found out that she never went to any of those counseling sessions alone.”

 

St. Louis Post Dispatch: Missing woman case tears apart Jefferson City lobbying team. 

Both of Kerry Messer’s sons, Abram and Aarron, now doubt aspects of their father’s accounting of events relating to the disappearance of their mother.

Moreover, the sons are bitter over Kerry Messer’s decision to begin what their father describes as a romantic but chaste relationship with another woman — a decision that they say raises questions and sullies the reputation of the Missouri Family Network.

“For the first time in 39 years I kissed someone other than my wife, Lynn. If you want to call that an affair, then you call it that term.”

In an interview last week, Kerry Messer said his relationship with Thomas began around Christmas 2014 — about five months after his wife disappeared.

But Schott, of the Sheriff’s Department, said detectives had confirmed a relationship between Kerry Messer and Thomas months earlier — about eight weeks after Lynn Messer disappeared.

Messer said in an interview that he disclosed the relationship to police voluntarily and upon advice from pastors.

However, police say Messer first told them about Thomas only after authorities already had learned of the relationship from her, while visiting her farm. Hours later, police say, Messer called them to disclose the relationship.

Schott said Thomas was seen by police among search parties organized soon after Lynn’s disappearance. Police said she has refused further questioning.

On to a different topic: The Memorial

Several readers have said they have attempted to call and talk to someone at First Baptist Church Festus Crystal City without success. Without exception, everyone gets a recording. Some have left calm messages asking the church to reconsider their position and listing their biblical reasons for calling. 

How has it gone for you?

I called this afternoon for an update on their reconsideration of holding or not holding the memorial service. Again, I received a recording. I didn’t leave a message since no one has been successful in receiving a call back. There has not been a courtesy reply or a public statement.

Possibilities have gone back and forth, but I have nothing definite… so I’ll wait to update you.

If you have heard that the memorial has been cancelled, rescheduled, or moved, please comment below and let me know.

Multiple readers sent letters to the church this week: Read previous posts for 3 letters, Abram Messer’s response, and my response.

 

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To Lynn Messer’s church: Correspondence from Jeff. City

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I submit to you another letter written on behalf of Lynn Messer’s sons, their families, Lynn’s extended family, and on behalf of Lynn. What if it were you who disappeared for over two years only to have your remains discovered on your husband’s farm? Law enforcement discovers your husband is in a relationship with another women within weeks of your disappearance. During the three years since your disappearance/death he writes weekly about how he is grief-stricken and that his shredded heart can barely go on without you. Wouldn’t you want your someone to pursue answers and justice for you?

To: First Baptist Church Festus Crystal City,

I am appalled that you would be hosting a memorial for Lynn Messer. I’m sure I need not quote Scripture to show you where God’s Word warns us of turning a blind eye to evil (Kerry’s) not to mention God’s even more stern warning to teachers and leadership for doing so specifically in II Timothy. 

Lynn’s entire family has been cleared in the investigation except for Kerry for 3 YEARS now, and you choose to indulge Kerry’s attention seeking with this service? Have any of you contacted law enforcement to ask basic questions about the investigation status? Spring Thomas and Kerry are not cooperating with them. Do you know any grieving spouse that wouldn’t want answers about the other’s disappearance and now that her body has been recovered, can you imagine any grieving spouse not wanting answers about how the other died? Not cooperating with the investigation speaks volumes on Kerry’s ‘grief’. I cannot understand why you would choose to be more conduit to Kerry’s deception as the “grieving” spouse on Sunday.

Has it occurred to you that seeking unbelievers observe actions more than they hear words… Its concerning to know that the unbelievers observing your church are watching you allow a man WHO IS STILL CONSIDERED A SUSPECT to organize a service for his wife who died under suspicious circumstances.

I worked at the capital and spent a lot of time with Kerry and Abram and I had no reason or motivation to choose sides from the very beginning but I couldn’t bring myself to join those early search parties because nothing added up from the very beginning and I was spooked that I would trip over her dead body because my instincts were telling me there was foul play. There is still no motivation or benefit to me choosing sides, in fact this has cost me certain professional relationships for speaking out against Kerry’s affair publicly. The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom and I stand by my choices. I will not look the other way on Kerry’s convoluted rationale for his ‘special friendship’ with Spring before he would have known he was a widower or all the contractions in his details of the events that occurred. All the lies and omissions especially on his Facebook page make a mockery of God’s pure love and forgiveness and our true repentance in order to be called his children.

Trying anyone outside a court of law is wrong so Kerry is still presumed innocent of anything illegal. At the very least however the FACTS about his still suspect status and confirmed affair (according to investigators) are shocking to so many of the mutual friends and acquaintances I have in common with Kerry in terms of your church supporting him as you are. They are confused, disillusioned and discouraged with your decision to host this service.

If you are choosing to enable the furtherance of evil no matter how insignificant you might rationalize it to be, I personally can not in good conscience push it under the rug according to God’s calling for our righteousness. To watch a HOUSE OF GOD planning something on behalf of the REMAINING SUSPECT in Lynn’s death on Sunday is nothing short of frightening to me personally because it won’t be blessed.

*Disclaimer: This is a letter written in its entirety by a GiveMe Chocolate reader. These are their opinions and do not necessarily reflect the ideas or opinions of this website.  I am committed to publishing works of integrity. In that spirit, I offer this letter to my readers; however, the words are the author’s alone—told from their viewpoint. The testimony presented in this letter does not constitute legal facts, a guarantee, or a prediction regarding the outcome of advice given.

 

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Lynn Messer: More correspondence

I have met some amazingly wonderful people through the avenue of blogging. They challenge me, encourage me, speak truth to me, and provide excellent community. I’m grateful to have made a few new, meaningful friendships with like-minded people.

I received the following letter from a reader who is a former homeschool graduate with a college degree from Moody Bible Institute. The below letter was sent directly to the church.

This is another biblical challenge for the church leadership to change the path they are taking.

Dear Pastors of First Baptist Festus,

 

I am not sure if you are familiar with the passage in Zechariah 7.  In my 30+ years in the church, I have never been fortunate enough to hear a sermon on this passage.   It really speaks to the WHY of what we do.

The people[a] sent Sherezer. . .  to the house of God, to pray before the Lord, and to ask…, “Should I weep in the fifth month and fast as I have done for so many years?”

Then the word of the Lord of hosts came to me, saying, “. . . ‘When you fasted and mourned in the fifth and seventh months during those seventy years, did you really fast for Me—for Me? When you eat and when you drink, do you not eat and drink for yourselves?  Should you not have obeyed the words which the Lord proclaimed through the former prophets…?’”

Zachariah 7:2 – 7

Could fasting or other spiritual practices really be insulting to God?

I am struck with God’s response to the question as to if they should continue their observance of fasting.  God wanted to know if the mourning and fasting was for Him?  For His glory?  God didn’t need to ask a rhetorical question – He is all knowing, but I presume He wanted to evoke thoughts that would result in repentance, change and restoration.  Simply put – He was confronting them.  Sadly, they didn’t listen!

In verse 9, the Lord Almighty said this “Administer true JUSTICE, show mercy and compassion to one another.” Simply, love mercy and DO Justice.  Justice is compassionate and precedes mercy.  No surprise that a just God is justice-oriented.

Verse 10 speaks to not oppressing widows, the fatherless, foreigners or poor.   And to NOT plot evil against one another.

Sadly, they weren’t inspired by the words of God.  They didn’t get to the business of justice.   It seems shocking that they were too busy to listen to God because, after all, they were building the temple

“They refused to heed, shrugged their shoulders and stopped their ears…They made their hearts as hard as flint.” (verse 11 – 12)  God was angry!  Injustice makes God angry! 

The chapter ends with “When I called they didn’t listen . . . I scattered them . . . This is how they made the pleasant land desolate.”

When I heard that a memorial service was being held for Lynn Messer, my first Lynnthought was, “Why?”  Why another one in addition to the one held by Lynn’s sons, sisters and mom? If Kerry was holding another one, why didn’t this happen at the same as when her bones were buried?  Why now?  Why isn’t there justice for Lynn? Why would First Baptist Festus continue to align themselves with a man who appears to have a heart of flint and is unrepentant?

Why is First Baptist Festus focused on mercy for one man but not on justice for Lynn?  Throughout the Bible and in God’s economy, justice comes first and then mercy.  Is it really merciful to not do justice?  NO!

My heart is especially grieved by earthly fathers and, in particular, Christian earthly fathers who do not emulate the love of our Heavenly Father to their children.  Fathers who give their children stones and snakes when the children ask for bread and fish have done something more devastating than breaking the hearts of their children – these evil fathers trample on the very earthly institution that God instituted to remind us of His love.   I am pretty sure this angers a just God.  (Matthew 7:9-11)  I am saddened by the manner in which Kerry has treated his sons.

Could having a memorial for service for a dear lady be the wrong thing to do?  I submit to you that YES it is just as it was wrong for the fasting to take place in the above passage.  Justice first, then mercy not fasting or memorial services that are self-serving.  The best way to honor Lynn is to act justly, to love her sons and to honor the sanctity of marriage!

What should happen next weekend is that Kerry Messer should be urged to cooperate with law enforcement and repent –  if for nothing else than for having an affair.  It is hard to believe that a husband with a missing wife would start a relationship just weeks after the wife went missing unless he knew she wasn’t coming home.  And makes you wonder if then the new relationship wasn’t the reason for Lynn’s death?

Please don’t continue to bring dishonor to my Lord and Savior by your unwillingness to stand for justice.  Lynn had evil plotted against her, so don’t be too busy “building your temple” to take a stand for justice.  Don’t allow your hearts to be that of flint.  I am sad to think that a failure to seek justice will result in making the “pleasant land” of First Baptist desolate.

 

Justice before Mercy,

J Lee

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 *Disclaimer: This is a letter written in its entirety by a GiveMe Chocolate reader. These are their opinions and do not necessarily reflect the ideas or opinions of this website.  I am committed to publishing works of integrity. In that spirit, I offer this letter to my readers; however, the words are the author’s alone—told from their viewpoint. The testimony presented in this letter does not constitute legal facts, a guarantee, or a prediction regarding the outcome of advice given.

 

Lynn Messer letter response

I’ve heard and read that the letter to the church from some of Lynn’s concerned friends seems over the top to a few of you, but I understand the concern and frustrations behind the letter.

Before I go any further I want to address the letter from Holly Ashley’s “Oh, Did I type that outloud?—Wolves in Shepherds Clothing: Justice for Lynn Messer and Victims of Abuse everywhere. Abram Messer did not petition for a protest or have knowledge that a protest was going to be recommended. A protest is not at all his desire or request.

From: Abram

I am publicly calling anyone who is planning on protesting the memorial service to please cancel those plans.

Any one who chooses to engage in this activity is directly acting in opposition to my express desires and wishes, and are operating on their own.

 

Before I continue…

I understand that tone of voice and emotion are left up to question when writing and/or reading so allow me to clear the question of my intent. 

I’m not angry or being demanding. I have a calm, quiet voice and am fueled by my love for Christ’s church. I have some questions and concerns I desperately want the church leadership and membership to consider. No one’s motive is to attack the church; the body of Christ. The motive is to ask them to reexamine the decisions they have made because the decisions don’t line up with scripture. 

I also need to remind you in this post with what I’ve been seeking all along—that the church hold Kerry Messer accountable for his ongoing relationship, with a woman not his wife, since shortly after Lynn disappeared…when no on knew where Lynn was, or if she was alive or dead. I am not asking them to pass judgment on his guilt or innocence in Lynn’s disappearance or death. The pastor and the church may have their own opinions on how to handle this; but scripture doesn’t leave room for our opinions. That is what I want to make clear and why I desire the church to act justly. Seek justice for Lynn and her family.

I have lived on the side of an abuser being believed over the victims. I see far more churches who accept an abuser’s testimony without checking the facts, I have a passion to see the church come to an understanding of how rampant this problem is throughout all denominational and non-denominational backgrounds.

Here is a list of a few biblical counselors, organizations, and survivors who minister to victims of marital abuse, and other abuses within the church. Most of these offer educational tools to local church’s and individuals.

  • Leslie Vernick
  • Patrick Doyle
  • A Cry for Justice
  • Emotional Survivor
  • The Psalm 82 Initiative
  • G.R.A.C.E. Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Environment
  • Claire Roise
  • Give Her Wings
  • Gary Thomas
  • Jeff Crippen
  • Holly Ashley 

For those of us who study abuse in the Christian environment we desperately want the church to see the way they are contributing to the demise of victims while putting their trust and support behind abusers and/or duplicitous individuals.

These leaders may not be clever enough to see it, but the abused women and children get the message loud and clear: If you come to us about abuse, we will cross-examine you, we will doubt you, we will endanger you, we will use God to pressure you, we will blame you, and we will shame you.

I often see churches that believe in being sweet and soft toward people who need corrected. Jesus was not soft-spoken and syrupy sweet when dealing with blatent sin. He was wise, just, caring, firm and factual. I think it’s time for church leadership to act with biblical wisdom, justice and boldness. There is no other way to deal with difficult personalities if you see they are trying to manipulate you.

Regarding the letter to the church, no one was judging the motive of the pastor’s heart. Please reread the scriptures listed in Abram’s letter: regarding obedience. You are picking one sentence and using it out of context. Your pastor is not responsible for Kerry’s action, but he is responsible for safe guarding the flock God has entrusted to him.

Let’s also apply this verse:

Get rid of the old yeast, so that you may be a new unleavened batch—as you really are. For Christ, our Passover lamb, has been sacrificed.  Therefore let us keep the Festival, not with the old bread leavened with malice and wickedness, but with the unleavened bread of sincerity and truth.

 I wrote to you in my letter not to associate with sexually immoral people—not at all meaning the people of this world who are immoral, or the greedy and swindlers, or idolaters. In that case you would have to leave this world.  But now I am writing to you that you must not associate with anyone who claims to be a brother or sister but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or slanderer, a drunkard or swindler. Do not even eat with such people.

What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church? Are you not to judge those inside? God will judge those outside. “Expel the wicked person from among you.” (NIV)

I understand your concern for your pastor. I’m not God and I can’t say with certainty that what I think about Kerry Messer is correct, but if he is anything close to what I speculate about him then he could hoodwink the most world renowned doctors in the field of psychology. Which could mean your pastor should chalk it up to a lesson learned and humbly apologize, and ask forgiveness from Lynn’s sons and his church family. He wouldn’t be the first person to believe a professional liar.

 That is why the apostle Paul warns us in I Timothy:

The sins of some people are conspicuous, going before them to judgment, but the sins of others appear later. So also good works are conspicuous, and even those that are not cannot remain hidden. (1 Timothy 5:24-25)

Paul wrote to Timothy to be on guard. He warned about people whose sins are visible and easy to see. That’s easy! What’s difficult is the second part of the verse; “the sins of others appear later.”  Paul wrote this to Timothy after he said, “Do not be hasty in the laying on of hands, nor take part in the sins of others; keep yourself pure.”  (1 Timothy 5:22)

Those evil ones whose sins “appear later” hide in the church, especially abusive husbands. Although I don’t know why; statistics show a higher rate of spousal abuse in the church than outside the church community.  Abusers thrive in this environment and satisfy their hunger for power and control in every local church body…and the church members sitting next to them in bible study and worship have no idea.

This is where the church, and especially leadership, needs to grow in wisdom. Abusers can appear outwardly holy in speech and even in actions—for a short time—yet be inwardly evil. Usually only the family experiences this side of the person, but occasionally so do co-workers. We shouldn’t be shocked when someone steps forward with allegations of abuse. It’s sad, but we should believe the victim’s side until a full investigation has proven innocence. I so strongly believe in this where spousal abuse is reported. Not believing has left countless women and children battered or dead.

Believe Her

In C.S. Lewis’s The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe, no one believes Lucy when she tells them she has found an entire new country through the back of the wardrobe. Perplexed, the other three children go to the professor about Lucy. After all, Lucy has always been honest. She has never displayed acts of manipulation or craziness. The children cannot understand why Lucy will not recant. They are stunned when the Professor asks them, “How do you know that your sister’s story is not true?” He then explains that there are only three logical possibilities: either Lucy is lying, she has gone mad, or she is telling the truth. Lucy was never a liar nor had she gone mad. Not only that, but the Professor asks them which one of the two children (Edmund or Lucy) was most likely to tell the truth. Lucy was more likely to tell the truth. A new perspective had developed.

This perspective is what is sadly missing in the lives of so many people surrounding abused women. I am at a loss as to why a perfectly sane, honest woman is all of a sudden a liar when it comes to the abuse she is suffering at the hands of her husband – behind closed doors – LISTEN – where no one else lives. I see this all the time now. A woman is respected, honored, looked up to by so many people in the church…until she admits to someone that her personal home life is a living hell. NOW she is doubted, questioned and treated like a squeaky, high-pitched crazy woman who is crying wolf. Where did this come from? Emotionalabusesurvivor.com 

Witnesses stepped forward at Lynn’s memorial service and luncheon in December and told me that Lynn confided in them about spousal abuse. Abram and Aarron have also written and spoken; confirming these accusations.

There is a spiritual disconnect with abusers. Why?  They have a veneer of Christianity but don’t have the actual spirit. Jesus said, “I’m leaving but I will send you a gift; the Holy Spirit to convict you of sin (right and wrong) what’s true and what isn’t, and to comfort. If I don’t see conviction and comfort in someone I doubt  their spirituality. You can feign the fruit of the spirit but you cannot feign conviction and comfort. The spirit is dead or not present.

Religious denial is the worst because, its sneaky, the most dangerous denial there is. Not only do these types of people believe they’re okay but they have  a sense of nobility and righteousness about themselves. It appears he has spiritualized what I think is his sin. He doesn’t see the problem; he believes he’s doing God’s work. It looks like he’s ignoring his sons, not caring about their hearts, withholding relationship, while losing his children’s respect and love.

Scripture says we confess our sins to one another that we might be healed; the only person this does not pertain to is Jesus. Hardness happens when we don’t confess. He’s avoiding truth and making the world as he’s see it; which is not his family’s reality. That is in essence idolatry.

Truth is more important than comfort—so I press on to reveal truth and bring sin out of the darkness and into the light. The light is where Jesus dwells; it’s what He is and in this place there is healing and restoration.

We must call abusers out on the darkness; and ask those who support them to step back and allow the consequences to fall where they may. This is tough but it is not unloving, unkind, or judgmental.  We call them out because we do love; we love with the love of Christ and we want them to receive wisdom, power, and healing to have victory over their stronghold. This is true love…anything less is the oposite and in reality is unloving. 

 

“When you meet someone who seems soooo “Christian” and sooooo “warm” and “kind,” remind yourself that the verdict is still out on what they really are. Don’t let yourself get swept off your feet by someone’s charm, no matter how good it might feel to do so. If you permit yourself to be “charmed” and come under their spell, it is highly unlikely that anyone is going to be able to warn you, and you will have to learn the hard, hard way as most all of us have had to. In the same way as time will show the genuineness of a real Christian’s heart, so, in time, the wicked deceptive person will be revealed for what they really are.” ~ A Cry for Justice: He is just the nicest man I’ve ever met—Beware the abuser’s charm.

Unfortunately, people who live a double life will always have their following…even after the prison doors clang shut behind them. I’ve seen it!

 

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*This case is of public interest. Kerry Messer is a public figure who fund raises from the citizens of Missouri to provide professional and personal finances through his organization  Missouri Family Network.  Lynn Messer’s sons and extended family continue to point out moral and ethical issues they have witnessed by Kerry Messer. I do not write these posts or publish letters as a professional in any field of expertise, but rather to educate my readers from the life experiences through which I have lived. See the disclaimer in the side margin. The content of this post does not constitute legal facts, a guarantee, or a prediction regarding the outcome of advice given. 

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Abram Messer regarding obedience

*Disclaimer: This is a letter written in its entirety by Lynn Messer’s son Abram Messer. These are his memories, opinions, and accounts of interactions and conversations. I am committed to publishing works of integrity. In that spirit, I offer this letter to my readers; however, the story, the experiences, and the words are the author’s alone—told from his viewpoint. The testimony presented in this letter does not constitute legal facts, a guarantee, or a prediction regarding the outcome of advice given.

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~Aarron Messer

Regarding Obedience

By: Abram Messer

As many of you know my father Kerry has announced that he is planning a memorial service for my mom at First Baptist Church of Festus Crystal City. Many of you also know that our family also used to attend First Baptist FCC as well. In fact we were members there for over a decade, and pastor Charles McClain even baptized some of my children. We still have many dear friends who attend there. Those friends we thought so highly of, we were sure to invite to my mother’s memorial service in December of 2016. My brother Aarron, was also sure to send invitations to my mom’s friends and acquaintances at First Baptist FCC as well. Due to questionable weather conditions, many of our friends were not able to attend. And sadly, almost everyone else that Aarron invited declined to attend or even respond to their invitation.

So what does this have to do with obedience?

The Word of God has plenty to say about sin, repentance, obedience and reconciliation. And 2 Tim 3:16-17 tells us “All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work.” This tells us that any questions that we have about ‘what to do next’ can be found in the infallible Word of God. All we have to do is be obedient. We do not have the luxury of picking and choosing what portions of the Word we ‘feel’ like obeying. Nor do we get to skip over the parts that are hard, challenging or that make us uncomfortable. When it comes to our current circumstances, it can be easy to feel very lost… but God has not abandoned us and has left us with a very specific course of action in dealing with sin.

*Just an FYI, I am NOT perfect. I have made plenty of mistakes, struggled and failed repeatedly to wholly live up to Gods standard. I have also never hid these shortcomings, and sought both God’s forgiveness as well as done everything within my power to be reconciled to those that I have offended.

Obedience in response to sin

The Word of God gives us a very detailed outline of what to do when a brother (or sister) is in sin. This process is not one to be taken lightly. It should be done with all seriousness and humility before God, as Ezekiel chapter 3 and Romans 1 lay out our biblical responsibility to call out sin as well as presents Gods firm condemnation on us if we sit quietly by. The consequences of this “sin of silence” ought to be more than enough to demand our attention.

This outline we biblically must follow starts in Matthew 7:1-6

“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye. Do not give dogs what is holy, and do not throw your pearls before pigs, lest they trample them underfoot and turn to attack you.”

Church goers are always quick to point out verses 1-4, while conveniently editing out the rest of the passage… namely that confronting sin is a serious thing, and our first stop is not the person whose actions are in question. Our first stop is on our knees at the foot of the cross. Dealing with sin always begins with personal reflection, to ensure that our hearts and minds are right before God.

After we have dealt with our own heart before God we move on to Matthew 18:15-20.

“If your brother sins against you go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector. Truly, I say to you, whatever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven. Again I say to you, if two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them.”

If we have made certain that our hearts are right before God and we are operating out of the right motivation, then we are commanded by Jesus Christ Himself to go to the individual who has sinned and in love confront them about the issue. If they do not repent, go back with more fellow believers and confront them again. If they still refuse to turn from their sin, we are commanded by God to bring them before the church, and finally… if steeped in their rebellion they refuse to submit to the Word of God, they are to be treated as a nonbeliever and a tax collector. The term “tax collector” here which is used is very interesting, considering He was referring to the Jewish people who had betrayed their countrymen by cutting a deal to work with the Roman officials to extract and extort Gods people.

If an individual still refuses to repent of their sin and submit to God, He still has commands for us.

Ephesians 5:11-17

“Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them. For it is shameful even to speak of the things that they do in secret. But when anything is exposed by the light, it becomes visible, for anything that becomes visible is light. Therefore it says, “Awake, O sleeper, and arise from the dead, and Christ will shine on you.” Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is.”

1 Timothy 5:20-21

“As for those who persist in sin, rebuke them in the presence of all, so that the rest may stand in fear. In the presence of God and of Christ Jesus and of the elect angels I charge you to keep these rules without prejudging, doing nothing from partiality.”

The Word of God stands in stark contrast to the way most churches deal with sin… and sadly this is the case with First Baptist Church of Festus Crystal City. You see I think Dr. McClain kind of was obedient. He did do some things… he did go to the MBC president Dr. Yeats and together they made the decision to remove my father Kerry from his position representing the MBC at the capital (a position, they were very careful to explain was basically a verbal agreement formed through the CLC). But here is where something happened.

I started meeting with Dr. McClain in June of 2015 after discovering my father’s secret relationship with Spring. We met off and on through the end of the year, and I followed up with him repeatedly until the end of the legislative session in May of 2016. All in all, for 11 months we had an ongoing dialogue. That my friends, was a lot of time, tears, and prayer.  I met personally with Dr. Yeats in Jefferson City in the early months of 2016, and he recounted for me his personal conversations with my father in which my father was informed that he would no longer be publicly speaking on behest of the convention. As time went on things continued to disintegrate. My father has refused to speak to me since December of 2015. Despite my pleas for him to repent, and in spite of the fact that I had gone to him in private (multiple times) begging him to repent; in love desperately seeking that he would be reconciled to God, so that our relationship could be healed, he has refused to do so. He has ignored the fact that my brother and I both sat down with him, calling him in love and tears to repentance. His first response was to attempt to pacify me by telling me he was going to turn MFN over to me (which I never asked for) and finally place my home in my name, but also failed to follow through with anything he pledged to do, setting himself up with the legal authority to remove my family and me from our home.

Partial obedience is disobedience

1 Samuel 15 tells us about King Saul being given a direct command from God. Saul then goes out and does… most of it. King Saul does most of what God commanded, but decided that he knew better than God. God responded in 1 Sam 15:22-23 by saying

“Has the Lord as great delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices, as in obeying the voice of the Lord?

Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, and to listen than the fat of rams. For rebellion is as the sin of divination, and presumption is as iniquity and idolatry. Because you have rejected the word of the Lord, he has also rejected you from being king.”

Partial obedience is in fact disobedience; it is nothing more that rebellion before God Himself. Let me phrase that a little bit differently for you… “To not act is to act”.

The hardest part of this whole mess has not been the abuse and betrayal of my own father. It has not been losing my home and career. It has not been the long-term trauma of my mom’s missing persons case, or the years of searching.

It was realizing that Dr. McClain and the MBC, as far as I can tell, chose partial obedience.

I was getting concerned that the MBC was more interested in making sure that they had covered their backside than being obedient when I tried to follow up with Dr. Yeats in 2016. When I finally was able to reach him, he recounted a completely different version of his conversation with my father. A new version which completely whitewashed the very issues which we were attempting to deal with. Furthermore, when various media reached out to the MBC, they chose to tell a third version of why my father was no longer representing them, this time fabricating the story that it was due to budget cuts.

It is with the deepest heartbreak that I tell you that when I met with Dr. McClain days after my father fired me, he chose a side.

I am not telling you this because I am angry and lashing out, nor am I out for blood as some have accused me of. I am telling you this because I believe that I have a biblical responsibility to tell you. For the same reason that I chose to publicly “expose” the sin that my father has become involved in. Someone else’s disobedience is not an excuse for you to be disobedient too. We are responsible to God Himself to be obedient. No matter what.

In May of 2016 I believe Dr. McClain chose to lie. I think he chose to outright lie about the content of 11 months of meetings, and place himself firmly in support of my father. He has not chosen to follow the biblical outline for dealing with sin, choosing rather to be partially obedient. He has done just enough to pacify his own conscience. When I asked him about going before the church, or least of all the deacon body he said “that’s not even going to happen.”  It was not biblical for him to tell me to not tell anyone else at church anything about the investigation, and it was not biblical for him to respond to my tearful voicemail begging him to please call me, but instead he waited a few weeks before emailing me and telling me I should find someone else to counsel with.

This is why we left First Baptist Church of Festus Crystal City. Not because of my father, but because of what I considered blatant, unbiblical actions and the chosen path of Pastor McClain.

I would be amiss if I did not also point out that there are still a tremendous amount of good people who still attended there. PLEASE do not misinterpret my public calling out of church leadership as condemnation of a whole church body. I am well aware of the manner in which information has been used to manipulate and keep people in the dark. For those members who truly have no idea what has been going on behind the scenes, I am truly sorry. I love all of you, and the deepest desire of my heart is that we may all be reconciled. I know there are godly people at First Baptist, many of whom I am still in regular contact with. Some of them have even reached out to me here and there and I look forward to their warm embrace when we see one another around town. I even had one brother reach out to me once, and I hope that as the months go on his schedule would open up enough for him to continue our conversation.  But it is sickening to hear the ongoing criminal investigation of my father regarding my mother’s death and disappearance referred to as a “family dispute.” To do so is to completely disregard and devalue my mother’s life and ministries. All while gravely downplaying open disobedience to Gods commands. I would truly like to have conversations with Dr. McClain about these issues but I fear that is not an option. The last two times that I saw him publicly, he looked right into my eyes, his face got red, and he started breathing heavy… then he physically turned his body away from me and refused to acknowledge my existence. The second time he did this I knew that it was not a case of mistaken identity.

So here is the bottom line. What are you going to do about the memorial service that is being planned at First Baptist? Remember, people don’t typically have another funeral just because they missed the first one. This is not about my mother; this is not about honoring her. If you truly seek to honor her, then walk in obedience, stand for the Word of God. Refuse to accept partial obedience, stand up for Truth. I would encourage you to follow the biblical outline, start with yourself. And in that time of self-examination ask yourself “what if it was my mom?” or sister… or daughter. How would you react to the news that the church leaders who lied to you and withdrew their support from you in the most desperate time you have ever been in, had decided to put together another service without any family involvement. But most importantly, how should you biblically respond?

08/12/2017 3 PM, I would add two things to this in response to various comments I have read.
1. I’ve heard people say for almost 3 years now that my father has not been charged with a crime yet so what can the church really do?
This is very problematic from a biblical standpoint. Go back and reread 1 Cor 5 and Mat 18. Then message me and point out to me where the Word says something about charges being filed. It’s not there. We have to stop confusing sin, with the term “crime”. Crime is sin, but legally not all sin is considered a crime. Is it a crime to cheat on your wife? Nope. Is it a sin? ABSOLUTELY. So we must stop thinking about our biblical responsibility in terms of man’s law, because it is about obedience to a higher law- Gods law.
2. There isn’t really anything more that the pastor of First Baptist can do.
Wrong. Biblically, if you are a member of First Baptist you are under the spiritual leadership of the pastor. The pastor (also referred to biblically by terms like “Shepherd” and “overseer”), is required by the Word to bring sheep who have wandered back into the fold… not passively offer lip service and watch the sheep walk off a cliff.
I would encourage Dr. McClain to have the Biblical and moral fortitude to “reign in” my father and not allow him to continue to control this service they way he is.

 

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The pastor that ignores an abuser’s profound and hateful lack of love, in order to deal with a relatively minor fault with the victim, has allowed themselves to be manipulated into becoming an instrument of cruelty in the abuser’s hands.

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A letter to Lynn Messer’s church

Dear First Baptist Church Festus/Crystal City,

Friends of Lynn’s family have not been successful in their attempt to speak with your pastor, or a member of the church staff. The pastor was either on the other line, not in the office, or no one answered the phone and it went straight to voicemail; many attempts.

We’re sure your intent was not to add more hurt and stress to Lynn’s sons and extended family, but this is what’s happening. Please help all of us understand why you continue to assist Kerry Messer and gravitate toward his side of the story instead of the son’s and law enforcement’s side of the story?

We’ve been contacted by multiple people who report they have attempted to talk to the pastor about all of this, but the facts have been minimized, Kerry’s reasoning justified, and some people say they have received no answers/returned phone calls.

This is from Kerry’s Find Lynn Messer Facebook page:

“Sunshine Mission:  This is Ma’s ministry of choice for people struggling with a variety of needs. During Ma’s years of cultivating her truck garden, she would take bushels of produce to Sunshine Mission. Because of its location and distance, she would usually get there after dark, or just before. So I encouraged her to take along one of her dogs. Thanks to Ma’s fearless confidence, nothing could stop her from doing anything she set her mind or heart to do. I expect to eventually donate most of Ma’s personal items myself.”

Kerry has on multiple occasions mentioned his counsel who helps him make decisions. We hope his counsel tells him how important it is for his sons to receive items that belonged to their mom, and for the grandchildren, daughter-in-law, mom, and sisters to receive something that belonged to Lynn.

Kerry clearly relies on his pastor as part of his circle of counselors. As a man of God, we; friends of Lynn and her children call on him to stand up for what is right and good. Abram and Aarron have gone to him to explain their dad’s pattern of deception, and with concerns about the relationship Kerry has with Spring Thomas – a relationship that was discovered by law enforcement just weeks following Lynn’s disappearance.  These young men have endeavored to do the decent and godly thing by approaching the pastor directly.

In the past week, it has come to light that the pastor has assisted Kerry in planning a memorial service for Lynn on August 20.

He choose to meet with Kerry, plan the service with Kerry, picked the date with Kerry and we are told Pastor McClain plans to speak at the service on behalf of those who love Lynn.  Were any of Lynn’s family members called?

It is reported that when the pastor encounters Abram and Elizabeth Messer around town, he refuses to speak to them. It is time for this to stop. Break free from whatever imagined power you may see Kerry as having.  His actions should tell you what needs to be done. While we still await more answers surrounding what happened to Lynn, it is evident that Kerry has not been truthful with his sons, with his church or with law enforcement. He is not acting in an upright manner.  It is time for you to call him to repentance and stand between evil and the innocent.

This is not a family feud. This is right and wrong.  We implore you to stand on the side of righteousness.

            Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delight is in the law of the LORD, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers. The wicked are not so, but are like chaff that the wind drives away. Therefore the wicked will not stand in the judgment, nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous; for the LORD knows the way of the righteous, but the way of the wicked will perish. (Psalms 1:1-6)

Why is FBC-FCC allowing itself to listen to the counsel of a man who has not been cleared in the investigation into his wife’s death and who by his own admittance was in a relationship with a woman, not his wife, within weeks of his wife’s disappearance?

Please urge Kerry to do the right things.  First and foremost, to tell what he knows about Lynn’s death. Secondly to come clean about his relationship with Spring.  Next to put an end to hurting his sons further by giving away their mother’s belongings to non-family members until they’ve been given the courtesy to look through her belongings. Spring Thomas is at his house helping Kerry do this according to the source. It looks like Kerry is disposing of and giving away Lynn’s belongings and Spring is taking part in it. It is time for FBC – Festus Crystal City to rise to the level of a New Testament Church.

Is this Kerry’s retribution for his sons telling a fraction of what they know about the investigation, and the circumstances surrounding it?

Is this Kerry preparing the house for Spring Thomas’ to move in soon? Is he preparing for marriage so there will be no chance of them having to testify against each other in court; should that day arrive, and many think that day is right around the corner.

Is Spring thinking through what this is doing to innocent grandchildren? To Kerry’s sons? Spring has told sources that she wants healing to take place between Kerry and his sons; as if healing is possible while Kerry continues to act in hurtful ways toward his sons with Spring’s help.

John 13:35 says “By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.”

Is Kerry Messer showing love for anyone other than himself?  He has completely cut off his children, grandchildren and in-laws.

            “If we say we have fellowship with him while we walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth. But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus his Son cleanses us from all sin.” (1 John 1:6-7)

Please put an end to First Baptist Festus Crystal City’s part in harming Abram and Aarron Messer and cooperating with Kerry’s treatment of them.

Why is FBC-FCC having fellowship with someone who has a pattern of walking in darkness (talking a good talk, but telling a different story with his walk)?

Dear Church, you have biblical grounds to excommunicate this man from your fellowship based solely on the way he treats his sons, daughter-in-law, and grandchildren.

 

I, Carolyn, did hear from a member of First Baptist Church Festus/Crystal City last week. Here are some excerpts from the correspondence:

“As soon as Kerry’s relationship with Spring was confirmed, Kerry was removed from his positions as deacon and Sunday school teacher. He was told that he was not allowed to have any roles in the church, only being allowed to attend services. He has no influence whatsoever. I can understand the frustration of the sons to feel like church leadership didn’t go far enough with their discipline. Banning Kerry from the church and announcing his allegations in front of the congregation isn’t the most logical way to handle the situation.”

Then will someone please tell me why God included in his Holy scriptures the precedence for removing people from the fellowship when unconfessed and unrepentant sin is involved?

Does church leadership understand that children, young adults, and abusive husbands are all watching and getting the message that the church doesn’t believe marriage vows and biblical mandates to deal with sin are as sacred as our Lord intended them?

 I believe that the pastor shares the same hope that I do that someday Kerry will feel true conviction and repent for what he’s done. The pastor just doesn’t feel like removing him from the church completely is the right thing to do. The hope is that Kerry will feel true conviction and decide to come clean and repent.”

If this were the case; waiting for the person to feel true conviction; God would not have included scriptures for how to correctly administer church discipline.

The family’s understanding is that the church did not make the above actions known to the church membership, but instead did it quietly.

Months ago, Abram and Aarron privately went to Pastor McClain after unsuccessfully confronting their father in May 2015 about his pattern of deception and his extramarital relationship. Pastor McClain has refused to help.  Abram & Aarron have explained to Pastor McClain that their father has persistently not told the truth to them or to the readers of the Find Lynn Messer page or to the local congregation at First Baptist Church Festus-Crystal City. They have explained that Kerry was already in an extramarital relationship with Spring Thomas just six weeks after Lynn disappeared – a relationship he rationalized to detectives as being necessary because he was use to having sex several times per week.  Pastor McClain should by now know that Kerry and Spring are not cooperating with the investigation. Also, that Abram and Aarron have begged their dad to come clean and come to repentance. It appears Pastor McClain continues to provide support and guidance to Kerry Messer. The Missouri Baptist Convention has separated from Kerry Messer. Samaritan Ministries has separated from Kerry Messer.  Even Families for Home Education (FHE) after considerable deliberation has finally separated from Kerry Messer. We would like to know, why is First Baptist Church Festus-Crystal City continuing to act on Kerry Messer’s behalf in what looks like, and family believes is, his continued deception?

Let’s pray that your pastor does the right thing.  We call on him to cancel the service on August 20 and refuse to participate in Kerry’s plans.  We can understand that he may want to have a service for Lynn’s friends, but allow us to remind you that they were invited to Lynn’s memorial service held in December 2016. We call on your pastor to go to Kerry and make an attempt at calling him to repentance.  We call on Pastor McClain to stand up for Abram and Aarron Messer and their families as Kerry gives away precious, irreplaceable belongings of their mom.  If your pastor does not act, then the church must.  Now is the time for action.

Please contact the church and encourage them to stand strong and take action:

charles@fbcfcc.org
firstbaptist@fbcfcc.org
Thank you for your time,
Friends of Lynn Messer

*This case is of public interest. Kerry Messer is a public figure who fund raises from the citizens of Missouri to provide professional and personal finances through his organization  Missouri Family Network.  Lynn Messer’s sons and extended family continue to point out moral and ethical issues they have witnessed by Kerry Messer. I do not write these posts or publish letters as a professional in any field of expertise, but rather to educate my readers from the life experiences through which I have lived. See the disclaimer in the side margin.

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Aarron Messer: Spring Thomas estate a coincidence?

This is Aarron Messer’s response to my blog post yesterday; Spring Thomas estate case 05/09/2014

From Aarron Messer:

“I wanted to comment on the post regarding Spring’s Father’s Estate. Spring is an only child who cared for her mother and father as they passed. There were no competing claims on her estate. It’s closure has little bearing or relevance aside from the coincidence of events, it’s closure followed by mom’s disappearance. Few of us still accept coincidence as an answer.
After my Grandmother Ruby, Kerry’s mom passed away his father Darryl remarried. He moved off the farm to his new wife’s home in Perryville. Several events happened that led too my Uncle Danny being evicted from the farm after he presumptuously moved into Grandpa’s house. The eviction was forced by Kerry, and this led to Danny being cut out of the will. Kerry was to be the only inheritor of the farm.
Later Abram was asked to move into that same house by our grandfather and the house was given too him verbally by our Grandfather. Lynn and Kerry referred to the house as Abram’s house. Abram never was asked to pay any rent, in fact Abram paid the real estate taxes on his house and more than half the acreage of the farm for the more than a dozen years he lived there. He also paid Kerry for a portion of the farm insurance policy that covered the house. Further Abram paid the utilities on the house which included the well which watered the cattle on half the farm the entire time he lived there. 
As our new step-grandmother aged she broke her hip. She was sent to rehab in a care facility, and grandpa went to visit her everyday. As she recovered and was due to be released from the care facility, her son announced that he held power of attorney over her and decided that she needed to stay in a nursing home. It was discovered that Arbell, Darryl’s new wife did not own the farm that they lived on in Perryville but that her son had failed to list her on the deed as he had power of attorney over her since before their wedding. This produced chaos as Grandpa was told he had to leave the home he had shared with his new bride, her son was going to evict him.
Eventually, Kerry and Lynn had Darryl move into an apartment they had prepared on the farm. Darryl would drive the 40 miles a day everyday to see his wife in a nursing home. As he began to suffer from Parkinson’s Kerry obtained power of attorney over Darryl. The nursing home threatened to sue Grandpa for his assets to pay for Arbell’s care. This threat led to what I can only describe as the most disturbing moral lapse that I had ever seen in my father up to that point. Note this was all before my wife divorced me while I am serving as a pastor and was to result in me choosing to distance myself from MFN and caused an enormous rift between myself and my family as a whole.
Kerry as power of attorney for my grandfather filed divorce proceedings between Darryl and Arbell. His defense, one that Lynn repeated because she was told it had to be this way, was that if they did not do so Abram would be forced out of his home and half the farm would be lost. Kerry had already had half the farm transferred into his own name but the portion that was Abram’s was still in Grandpa’s name. My father told me that to protect my brother he had to force the divorce between my grandfather and his bride.
In what is the most disturbing element after the divorce was finalized Arbell’s son moved her too another nursing home in secret and hid her from my grandfather so he was never able to see his wife again; something that would never have happened if Kerry hadn’t made a financial decision to “protect” Abram’s house. Not that this mattered when he suddenly demanded rent from Abram or else eviction after having lived in his own house for a dozen years. My father suggests that Abram has anger issues, if anyone should be outraged by being treated this way Abram should.
Abram had every legal right to fight Kerry in court over ownership of his home. But Kerry has clearly demonstrated that he will use legal means for personal financial gain without regard for his own family, marriage, children, his own brother or father. So can we see some kind of major story in the apparent coincidence of Spring closing her fathers estate and the immediate disappearance of Lynn? No, but do you actually believe in coincidence? I don’t.”

Original article: Spring Thomas estate case 05/09/2014

Read more: Who is Spring Thomas by Aarron Messer

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Spring Thomas estate case 05/09/2014

Thank you to a reader who pointed me in the direction of Missouri Case Net to look at the probate proceeding surrounding Spring Thomas’ estate.

Spring Thomas is the woman who admitted to law enforcement her relationship with Kerry Messer approximately 6-8 weeks after Lynn Messer disappeared/died.

Spring’s father, Dr. Albert D. Thomas, died July 22, 2012.  His estate went through probate for 2 years before being settled. According to Missouri Case Net the date of disposition for the estate was closed on May 9, 2014, leaving Spring Thomas as the independent personal representative of her father’s estate.

July 8, 2014 Lynn Messer disappeared from her home; from the bed she shared with her new Lynn Messerhusband, Kerry Messer, a Missouri state lobbyist for Christian, Biblical, homeschooling, pro-life and family values.

Kerry told his sons and the authorities that a storm woke him up around 4:00 a.m. and that is when he noticed his wife was missing.

After more than two years of searches and an investigation; Lynn’s remains were found on Kerry Messer’s farm, November 1, 2016.

A cause of death has not been recorded on the death certificate at this time. It was determined that Lynn’s remains appear to have been in the elements the entire two years she was missing. Law enforcement cannot confirm if Lynn’s remains were positively in the same location the entire time; just that the remains were consistent with those that had been in the elements that amount of time.

There have been no arrests in the case and no one has been officially named as a person of interest. Law enforcement did confirm to me that Kerry Messer has not been cleared in the disappearance and death of his wife, Lynn Messer.

 

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Update on Lobbyist Kerry Messer

You…you who read this blog and take action…I want to thank you for your time, heart, and accomplishment. You have once again made a difference and impact through prayer, writing letters/emails, and making phone calls.

Kerry Messer is a Missouri state lobbyist whose wife, Lynn Messer, disappeared July 8, 2014. We now know that Lynn has been deceased the entire time and I have been told by law enforcement that Kerry Messer has not been cleared in the investigation surrounding Lynn’s death.

Here is the long awaited update on our requests to have Kerry Messer removed from grass roots activismlobbying for various organizations in the state of Missouri. Kerry has lobbied for homeschooling rights, family values, right to life causes, Samaritan’s Ministry/health sharing, gun safety, Christian child care, the Missouri Southern Baptist Convention, and Christian/biblical values. We think conflicting dialogue by Kerry about his wife and her disappearance, his detrimental treatment of his sons and their families, and his ongoing relationship with Spring Thomas while his wife was missing for 2+ years show Kerry is not above reproach, and are valid reasons for his removal from all of these organizations; but especially from Families for Home Education.

Your appeals are working!

I’ll start with the best result: Families for Home Education officially dropped Kerry Messer from their principal/lobbyist listing as reported on the Missouri Ethics Commission website. Although I was saddened and frustrated by FHE’s lack of desire to biblically deal with this earlier, I’m grateful they finally decided to protect homeschool parents and children from the ramifications of being associated with, and represented by, Kerry Messer at the state level. Thank you for not taking “no” as an answer from FHE. Your persistence paid off! They have not removed Kerry Messer from their website, so it looks like FHE may still be associated with him.  I have yet to see a statement from the FHE board addressing their reasoning for removing Kerry Messer.

FHE still needs to take down pictures and articles referring to Kerry Messer. Please call FHE leaders and remind them that the website needs updated to reflect that Kerry Messer no longer lobbies for the homeschooling community. As you can see in the below FHE contact list; and the last I knew, they were having a difficult time finding people willing to serve FHE in leadership positions.

Region 1: Erin and Charyti Jackson (660) 582-5903                    FHE Region map 2 updated 5-5-16

Region 2: Vacant—leave a voicemail: (877) 696-6343

Region 3: Bill and Cyretta Holbrook (877) 696-6343 ext. 3

Region 4: Dan and Mavis Dey (573) 239-3785

Region 5: Vacant—call: (877) 696-6343

Region 6W: Vacant—call Al and Sheryl Schmidt (417) 859-7908; 1-877-696-6343 ext. 62

Region 6E: Al and Sheryl Schmidt (417) 859-7908; 1-877-696-6343 ext. 62

Region 7: Vacant—call Al and Sheryl Schmidt (417) 859-7908; 1-877-696-6343 ext. 62

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Phone calls to the Missouri Southern Baptist association took place months ago. Kerry was officially removed 12/9/2016.

Next, Samaritan Ministries International also discontinued their association with Kerry Messer. This took some back and forth dialogue from “yes, he still lobbies for us and we believe in innocent until proven guilty” to…”he hasn’t worked for us for 10 years.” Samaritan Ministries dropped Kerry Messer 5/16/2017.

Alliance for Life, phone # 417-598-1040: Works mainly with Sam Lee. They do not currently employ Kerry or anyone else as a lobbyist. They need to be encouraged to call the Missouri Ethics Commission and have Kerry’s name deleted from their listing. Missouri Ethics Commission phone (MEC) # (573) 751-2020.

Americans United for Life, phone # 312-492-7234: There has been no success in reaching a representative. Another reader contacted Americans United for Life on June 6 and again on July 12; by email and through Facebook, but has not received a response. They continue to be listed on the MEC website as one of Kerry’s principals. If you would like to call them, please encourage them to contact MEC # (573) 751-2020 if they desire to delete Kerry Messer as their lobbyist.

I spoke with  MISSOURI ASSOCIATION OF CHRISTIAN CHILD CARE AGENCIES, INC. (phone # 660-347-5982) around the first of April. MACCCA was contacted two more times but has not responded and MACCCA is still listed on the MEC website. If they want to remove Kerry Messer on the MEC listing they need to call MEC: phone # (573) 751-2020.

Missouri Family Network is Kerry Messer’s own organization from which he works in Jefferson City.

Missourians for Personal Safety, phone # 816-455-2669 recently said that Kerry hasn’t worked for them for years. This is a completely different statement than I received in April 2017, when I spoke with Kevin Jamison. I’m not sure why they gave two different statements.

April 2017: Yes, Kerry represents them. They have been pleased with how Kerry has been very honest, upfront, and forthright with updates on everything. Kerry informed them when Lynn went missing, Kerry told them about his relationship with the other woman, told them when Lynn’s remains were found, and informed them when he, Kerry, secured Lynn’s dental records for the authorities; and just in time because they were about to be destroyed. Mr. Jamison said everybody but Kerry (referring to his colleagues, knew Kerry’s wife was dead and wouldn’t be returning).

Missourians for Personal Safety may need reminded to have their deletion of Kerry as their lobbyist reflected on the record at the Missouri Ethics Commission.  MEC Phone # (573) 751-2020.

Thank you for you caring attention to help protect the Christian and family value voter’s interests in the state of Missouri. You made a difference!

UPDATE: 8/3/2017, 8:40 AM: I received word that FHE is restructuring its lobbying efforts in Jeff City.

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Again I ask… Where’s the church?

The Lynn Messer case

I’m grateful more people are picking up this story. Let’s keep this in the public’s eye and pray that law enforcement is nearing making an arrest. The question in my mind at this time is will it be one arrest or two arrests? Did Kerry Messer have anything to do with his wife’s death…as in murder? If so, did Spring Thomas help, have knowledge, or conceal evidence or knowledge after the fact?

The investigation remains open and tips were still being called in to law enforcement as of a month ago; the last time I spoke with a detective on the case.

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Saturday, A Cry For Justice picked up the story. I’m grateful for their coverage since they have a large national and international following. Their mission is to awaken the evangelical church to domestic violence and abuse in its midst. Follow this link: The Mysterious Disappearance and Death of Lynn Messer—Husband Not Cleared in Investigation

And today:

Source: Again I ask… Where’s the church?

Here is a bit more information that reader Cheryl Summers added to, Again I ask…Where’s the church?

“Wow, wow, wow! What a great article! An amazing summation of the most troubling angles of this case. The only thing that Holly missed was that the relationship between Kerry and Spring seems like it was probably in place way before 8 weeks after Lynn’s death. Spring was asked to give a statement to police only about a month after and then promptly hired an attorney and stopped cooperating with police. From ‘Who is Spring Thomas?” – “At the six week point of the investigation into moms disappearance Spring confirmed in a written statement that she was in fact in a relationship with my dad. After she made her statement to police she messaged Abram and in an odd conversation asked Abram if it was appropriate for her to continue to participate in searches?” https://chocolateorelse.wordpress.com/…/who-is-spring…/

This article is from Aarron Messer’s Facebook page. He has given me permission to print it in its entirety. Our…
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Here is part of Holly Ashley’s article:

In July of 2014, the wife of a Missouri state lobbyist for Christian, Biblical, homeschooling, pro-life, and family values – disappeared. Kerry Messer stated that he woke up at 4:00 am from the noisy storm, realizing that his wife was not in bed. According Mr. Messer, Lynn simply walked away from her bed in the middle of the night, in the midst of a raging storm… She did not take her phone or her wedding ring or any personal items for that matter. In addition, Mr. Messer would like for the church to believe that Mrs. Messer simply decided to leave the house, the children, her Vacation Bible School commitment, and her grandchildren behind.

Prior to the police search and rescue attempt – Mr. Messer had the cattle moved across the property – and he mowed his grass… removing any chance of trace evidence, let alone scent for the dogs to follow.

But, after THREE YEARS, Lynn Messer’s body was found on the property – incidentally, right where police and rescue workers had been – three years earlier – wearing their GPS tracking suits.

Mr. Messer has tampered with evidence, lied to the family and friends of Mrs. Messer, lied to police on multiple occasions. Mr. Messer has failed to pass a polygraph test- twice. Mr. Messer began dating another woman 8 weeks after his wife’s “disappearance.” Mr. Messer is still under investigation by police – he has not been cleared to the date of this publication.

But the most disgusting thing about this case was that the two sons of Mr. and Mrs. Messer went before the church asking for help – and to this day, there has been no disciplinary action taken whatsoever. This a man who is representing “The Church” at the highest level! Yet, no disciplinary action – no public statement – by the church, has been made.

Although it is true that the police have not yet charged or convicted Mr. Messer, it does not negate the duties of the church to rise up and do their covenantal duty to the Lord.

Finish reading the article here: Again I Ask…Where’s the Church

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Lynn Messer 3 Years Later: New Q’s & A’s

 

July 8, marks the third anniversary of the day we were told Lynn Messer Lynn 1disappeared from her home. Interestingly though, I have noticed recent posts on Kerry Messer’s Find Lynn Messer Facebook page changed the date of Lynn’s disappearance from July 8 to July 7. I wonder why?

Lynn vanished from the bed she shared with her husband, Kerry Messer, a Missouri state lobbyist for Christian, Biblical, homeschooling, pro-life and family values.

Kerry told his sons and the authorities that a storm woke him up around 4:00 a.m. and that is when he noticed his wife was missing.

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In the first week media stated that Lynn was reported missing by her husband from the family farm, “When Kerry still couldn’t locate her he became increasingly concerned and called 911 to have the Ste. Genevieve County Sheriff’s Department come out to help assist.”  Abram and Aarron Messer, Lynn’s sons, insisted that it was Aarron who placed the call early in the morning, July 8, 2014. The dispatch recording verified Aarron Messer was the person who called law enforcement. 

The public was told, “Evidence at the scene indicates she may be in physical danger.”  

“She has a broken right toe and does not have her walking boot with her. Messer’s purse, cell phone and other personal items were left at her home.”

Law enforcement,  trained dogs, and searchers wearing GPS units searched the entire property. “People wore GPS units on them so we knew what areas we were covering and how dense we were covering them. Once one crew would get done with an area we would send another crew back in the same area with new eyes and different dogs.”

“Messer’s husband had mowed the property and moved the cattle. The sheriff said this becomes a problem for search dogs trying to follow a scent — one dog goes one way while another goes the other.”

During the first days Kerry Messer was quoted, “I could not count the number of specially trained dogs and handlers, all fitted with real-time GPS tracking being fed real-time into a base computer to provide us with a huge map showing the entire path (color coded) of each individual dog throughout the entire day and night.”

”They even reorganized and did a special night-time simultaneous ‘grid search’ in which the entire army of searchers were broken into teams which then swiped the entire farm in small bite-sized pieces.”

“Sadly, this initial search and the outstanding performance of this massive effort produced no fruit other than helping us know with a high probability that Lynn is not physically located on the farm.”

A month after Lynn had been missing Kerry Messer addressed Lynn’s medications in the media.

“The only thing we have got to go on is that her prescribed pain medication could have had an adverse effect on her mind.”

Kerry hopes that it will help others to understand that they may not be looking for someone who knows she is Lynn Messer. He believes that it’s the only real explanation.

“All we know is that the pain pills your doctor prescribed can have a severe reaction, causing you to be totally confused. We fear that you may not even know for sure who you are.

“This confusion can lead you to be fearful of people around you and cause you not to trust anyone. It can also lead you to go places without understanding why you are there.

Sheriff Gary Stolzer. Ste. Genevieve Sheriff County:  We have sent computers off and different things to have tested and analyzed by other people, but the case is just taking its course. We will continue to look into any leads we receive.” 

During these numerous interviews, and in Kerry’s long letters on his Find Lynn Messer Facebook page, he actively reminds the public of his suffering, loneliness, and struggles while missing Lynn. In fact he still writes about his shredded heart over missing Lynn.

What has been frustrating to Kerry’s sons, Lynn’s family and friends, and those who have followed the story is that law enforcement found out just weeks after Lynn ‘disappeared’ that Kerry was already in another relationship with a woman named Spring Thomas. Spring had been a family friend for many years and according to Abram and Aarron Messer there was, and is, more to the relationship than what is being reported.

A recap of events wouldn’t be complete without mentioning ‘the note’. Kerry showed a note to law enforcement; a note that he said was written by Lynn. Kerry refused to show the note to his sons. “Kerry said in the very beginning, law enforcement asked him not to talk about the letter. He didn’t understand why, but just complied. Kerry said he avoided talking about it and the few people he had already told he went to and asked them to not say anything because they wanted to honor what law enforcement had requested.”

According to Abram and Aarron, “for the first 11 months the police refused to allow anyone to see the note. I understand investigators need to withhold information but this was not the case. As they had shared with me, they had refused to show us the note because Kerry asked them not too.”

Lynn’s remains were discovered early November, 2016, on Kerry Messer’s farm property.

At this date forensics tests have concluded that Lynn has been in the elements, in that spot, about the entire time, and hair follicles showed no evidence of a cause of death. 

I, Carolyn, spoke with Detective White of the Ste. Genevieve Sheriff’s Department on Monday, July 3. He was generous with his time and answered the below questions for me.

I will present them in question/answer form.

Q: Were Lynn’s recovered remains a complete skeleton?  Were there any remains missing?

A: They were consistent with remains that have been in the elements since 2014.

Q: When I spoke with you this time last year you confirmed that Kerry Messer was no longer cooperating with law enforcement. Is this still true?

A: We are not in contact with him and have not reached out to him. We were told last year that he no longer wanted to speak to law enforcement and we have respected his wishes. He did cooperate when Lynn’s remains were found on his property. He could have required us to have a search warrant but he didn’t.

Q: Does this also mean you have no contact with Spring Thomas?

A: Yes

Q: Do you know if law enforcement has been able to search Spring Thomas’ house and property?

A:  I do know, but cannot say. I will say I have not seen the inside of her house.

Q: Kerry Messer has changed, or authorized the change, for the Find Lynn Messer Facebook cover photo. It now says his “page is the only official family and authority-sanctioned page.”  I think most people equate authority with law enforcement. Has law enforcement sanctioned this page?  I’m concerned about what this implies. Could Kerry be referring to law enforcement when he references ‘authority-sanctioned’?

A: No,  we don’t sanction anything.

Q: Has Kerry Messer been cleared of the investigation into Lynn’s death?

A: No, he has not.

Q: The death certificate currently reads, “Undetermined.” Could this status change in the future?

A: A cause of death will not be stated until the investigation is closed.

And lastly, to hear “We won’t stop until we determine what caused Lynn’s death.”  Spoken by Major Jason Schott of the Ste. Genevieve Sheriff’s Department in an interview last week had me thinking there is evidence. Now we just wait on timing for the investigative puzzle pieces to fit together.

I doubt Lynn disappeared from her own bed on a stormy night only to be found dead two years later in an area that was professionally searched by search and rescue dogs, helicopters, and searchers wearing GPS units to map/grid where they had searched.  A woman whose hair samples showed no evidence of a cause of death. As far as we know there were no weapons found with her. What happened to Lynn?

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Lynn Messer: Care and Share

Do you remember the first time you heard about Lynn’s disappearance? I do, and it captured my interest and heart from the get-go.  Obviously it captured yours too. You have been passionate about truth, caring toward the family, and waiting for answers.

I’ve blogged 45 times about Lynn’s story over the last year to help keep this mystery in Lynn 1the public’s eye, to honor her memory, and to tell her story through the voice of her sons and their families.

I’ve heard from many of you over the last year. I appreciate that some of you have considered what you may know, through hind sight, and been willing to talk to law enforcement about your knowledge.

As the 3rd anniversary of Lynn’s disappearance/death approaches, it’s time for her family to find closure and truth as to how her life ended. Law enforcement has worked countless hours and I imagine the investigation is on their minds even in their off duty hours.  The sheriff’s office continues to investigate while the FBI runs forensics tests; looking for a cause of death so they can determine if they need to take the investigation in a different direction, or if crime was committed.  

For the family, retaining an attorney and/or an investigator of their own will help them navigate the process.  An upfront cost of $40,000 was quoted for this extensively involved case; a major expense that most people can’t fund from their own bank accounts. So…let’s ALL do this together.  Let’s unify, donate, and help bring ongoing questions to an end…for Lynn, for her loved ones, and for her legacy.

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Lynn Messer: Media Release Statement, Letter to the Sheriff, Kerry changes FLM page

Above photo: Some of Lynn’s favorite flowers were dark red roses

For those of you who have followed the Lynn Messer case I am posting her son Abram Messer’s statement which he released to the media today. (If you are new to this case you may click  “Lynn Messer” in the margin or header; depending on the media platform you use.)

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Photo Credit: J.B. Forbes, St. Louis Post Dispatch

PRESS RELEASE: DISCLAIMER: This press release is Abrams opinion. I will preface it with he thinks this, but it has not been proven and no arrest has been made.  Please recognize that their memories of the events described in this press release may differ. 

So as many of you are aware, I’ve been getting calls from media outlets in light of the information we received yesterday. Here is the statement which I have released:

“Our family is both saddened and heartbroken over the actions that my father has chosen.

No one should be surprised at the devastation which comes from choosing sin. But God is faithful and just to cleanse, forgive and restore us through the blood of the Lamb. He is also a God of justice, and we will stay the course in seeking that justice. So we are renewing our call in begging my father to come clean, and tell the truth so he can experience the peace which only comes through Gods forgiveness.”

There are many Christians who have deliberately decided to twist the Word of God only talking about forgiveness, choosing to ignore Gods commands for His people to be a people who pursue justice…. my friends this has nothing to do with vengeance. We are commanded by God Himself to stand for truth. We are commanded by God Himself to call out sin publicly (after we follow the Biblical steps confronting that sin privately; which yes we have done), no matter how much it hurts. 

Why? Because whatever pain and heartbreak we experience through out that process-—it is nothing compared to the spiritual pain and heartache which comes from complacency.

Please continue to lift our family up before the Throne of Grace. He is faithful… and I must decrease so that He will increase. Whatever you may be going through in your life remember that God is faithful and just to cleanse and forgive. But to receive His forgiveness and restoration we must all acknowledge our sin before Him. His long suffering love which He extends to us has limits which only He can define—for rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft. Repent, turn to Christ—only then will you experience His peace and rest. For when we plant our feet upon The Rock… there is no storm which can shake you.

LETTER TO THE SHERIFF’S DEPARTMENT AND ATTORNEY GENERAL’S OFFICE (From one of the GiveMe Chocolate readers who commented on the article “Lynn Messer Secretly Transported Across State Lines and Buried”

Last night, I sent this to the St. Genevieve County Sheriff, Major Schott and copied the Attorney General’s office.

“I am highly concerned about the lack of activity surrounding the disappearance – and now we know – death of Lynn Messer. Based on the publicly available information, it would seem that Kerry Messer was most certainly involved somehow in her death. I can only assume that law enforcement has even more information pointing in his direction. Nearly three years after her disappearance and nearly a year after the discovery of her body, we still have no action being taken toward Mr. Messer. It would seem that the Sheriff’s department did not adequately search the property in those early days or that the body was subsequently brought to the property after it was searched. Either way, action is called for here.

Today, I’ve learned that the St. Genevieve County coroner released the body to Mr. Messer only to have him take it over state lines into Arkansas without the knowledge of Lynn’s sons, sisters or mother. It would seem that the Sheriff’s department as the lead investigative agency would have certainly known that the body was going to be released and understanding the circumstances, they could have let Lynn’s family members know what was about to take place. These family members could have sought injunctive relief to block the release of the body to Kerry given the high level of suspicion surrounding him and his lack of honesty with Lynn’s family members as well as his reported lack of cooperation – and his girlfriend’s lack of cooperation – with the investigation. Unfortunately, St. Genevieve County didn’t afford Lynn’s family this option. That adds another layer of tragedy upon an already tragic situation.

I called Carl Kinskey’s office several months ago about the progress on the investigation and he said he was just waiting on the Sheriff’s department. Why hasn’t information been sent over to the prosecuting attorney’s office? Where’s the grand jury? Is this an open investigation at this time? I certainly hope that the Sheriff’s office isn’t withholding information from the prosecuting attorney’s office waiting for some kind of air tight case to develop in this very bizarre circumstance. I urge you to send the information you have on the investigation to the prosecuting attorney. “

 

Find Lynn Messer page update…

Did anyone else notice? Kerry changed the “Find Lynn Messer” Facebook page cover photo. It now says the page is “authority-sanctioned.” The sheriff’s office confirmed to me a year ago that Kerry and Spring have not been cooperating with the investigation since their relationship was revealed to investigators. Which authorities is Kerry referring to?

The same cover photo says Lynn is missing as of 7/8/14. Why did Kerry not include that she was found?

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And here is what Kerry Messer has to say about the ongoing investigation:

 

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Below is yesterday’s post:

Lynn Messer secretly transported across state lines and buried

Kerry Messer secretly transported Lynn’s remains across state lines for burial.

Aarron, Abram, and Elizabeth contacted family members this morning so they heard it from them first instead of from media.

Rumors have been circulating for the last 2-3 weeks that Lynn’s remains were going to be released to Kerry Messer in the near future. Kerry has posted on his Find Lynn Messer Facebook page that he intended to obtain Lynn’s remains soon.

My sources told me that Kerry informed his church First Baptist Church Festus/Crystal City that he in fact obtained her remains and buried them yesterday.  Lynn’s remains rest next to Grandma Messer. According to the funeral home a pastor was present at the grave side service; along with, Kerry, an unnamed woman, and two of Kerry’s relatives who were named.

Lynn’s sons had remained hopeful that as long as the investigation was ongoing their mom’s remains would not be released. They have reached out to investigators but do not yet have answers.

Aarron spoke with his dad, Kerry Messer, on two separate occasions this morning and this is what Aarron says transpired:

Aarron: “I heard that you buried mother yesterday?”

Kerry: “Why do you care?”

Aarron: “She’s my mother.”

Kerry: “And I’m supposed to be your dad.”

Aarron: “You…are…”

According to Aarron, Kerry hung up on him mid-sentence.

Kerry also stated that Lynn was buried by “the only family she has left, that actually love her.”

“This is who supporters of MFN are endorsing.  A man who takes the body of his children’s mother from the coroner in secret and buries her without a word to her own children, her mother, or her sisters; all out of spite because he is the primary suspect in her disappearance and death.”

Lynn’s remains were released from the St. Louis coroner’s office last week and Kerry had her remains transported to Arkansas. They were cleared yesterday and buried the same day. The sheriff’s office did not have a say in how this transpired; it was up to the coroner. The husband, even if he were sitting in jail, has control of the remains.

Was this a controlling, abusive act Kerry committed against his sons and their families?

This is no quick commute for Aarron’s  and Abram’s families, or for Lynn’s side of the family to visit Lynn’s gravesite.  What else can a father do to traumatize his children?

Lynn’s remains rest in Walcott, Arkansas, in Mount Zion Cemetery under the direction of Heath Funeral Home in Paragould, Arkansas.

Like Aarron, I too thought of organizations who continue to retain Kerry as their state lobbyist. Families for Home Education, is this the type of parents you are? Do you treat your own children in this way, or do you consider this highly dysfunctional? Why do you want someone like this representing you?

Make no mistake; Lynn’s remains being released to Kerry Messer in no way indicates he is no longer a part of the investigation into Lynn’s disappearance and death. The case is open and active with new information still being received by the Ste. Genevieve County Sheriff’s Office.

 *Correction: Lynn ‘ s remains were released from the Ste. Genevieve County coroner.

 

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*Opinions expressed are not from me. There has not been an arrest made in this case and no one is presumed guilty until proven in a court of law.