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A letter to Lynn Messer’s church

Dear First Baptist Church Festus/Crystal City,

Friends of Lynn’s family have not been successful in their attempt to speak with your pastor, or a member of the church staff. The pastor was either on the other line, not in the office, or no one answered the phone and it went straight to voicemail; many attempts.

We’re sure your intent was not to add more hurt and stress to Lynn’s sons and extended family, but this is what’s happening. Please help all of us understand why you continue to assist Kerry Messer and gravitate toward his side of the story instead of the son’s and law enforcement’s side of the story?

We’ve been contacted by multiple people who report they have attempted to talk to the pastor about all of this, but the facts have been minimized, Kerry’s reasoning justified, and some people say they have received no answers/returned phone calls.

This is from Kerry’s Find Lynn Messer Facebook page:

“Sunshine Mission:  This is Ma’s ministry of choice for people struggling with a variety of needs. During Ma’s years of cultivating her truck garden, she would take bushels of produce to Sunshine Mission. Because of its location and distance, she would usually get there after dark, or just before. So I encouraged her to take along one of her dogs. Thanks to Ma’s fearless confidence, nothing could stop her from doing anything she set her mind or heart to do. I expect to eventually donate most of Ma’s personal items myself.”

Kerry has on multiple occasions mentioned his counsel who helps him make decisions. We hope his counsel tells him how important it is for his sons to receive items that belonged to their mom, and for the grandchildren, daughter-in-law, mom, and sisters to receive something that belonged to Lynn.

Kerry clearly relies on his pastor as part of his circle of counselors. As a man of God, we; friends of Lynn and her children call on him to stand up for what is right and good. Abram and Aarron have gone to him to explain their dad’s pattern of deception, and with concerns about the relationship Kerry has with Spring Thomas – a relationship that was discovered by law enforcement just weeks following Lynn’s disappearance.  These young men have endeavored to do the decent and godly thing by approaching the pastor directly.

In the past week, it has come to light that the pastor has assisted Kerry in planning a memorial service for Lynn on August 20.

He choose to meet with Kerry, plan the service with Kerry, picked the date with Kerry and we are told Pastor McClain plans to speak at the service on behalf of those who love Lynn.  Were any of Lynn’s family members called?

It is reported that when the pastor encounters Abram and Elizabeth Messer around town, he refuses to speak to them. It is time for this to stop. Break free from whatever imagined power you may see Kerry as having.  His actions should tell you what needs to be done. While we still await more answers surrounding what happened to Lynn, it is evident that Kerry has not been truthful with his sons, with his church or with law enforcement. He is not acting in an upright manner.  It is time for you to call him to repentance and stand between evil and the innocent.

This is not a family feud. This is right and wrong.  We implore you to stand on the side of righteousness.

            Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delight is in the law of the LORD, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers. The wicked are not so, but are like chaff that the wind drives away. Therefore the wicked will not stand in the judgment, nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous; for the LORD knows the way of the righteous, but the way of the wicked will perish. (Psalms 1:1-6)

Why is FBC-FCC allowing itself to listen to the counsel of a man who has not been cleared in the investigation into his wife’s death and who by his own admittance was in a relationship with a woman, not his wife, within weeks of his wife’s disappearance?

Please urge Kerry to do the right things.  First and foremost, to tell what he knows about Lynn’s death. Secondly to come clean about his relationship with Spring.  Next to put an end to hurting his sons further by giving away their mother’s belongings to non-family members until they’ve been given the courtesy to look through her belongings. Spring Thomas is at his house helping Kerry do this according to the source. It looks like Kerry is disposing of and giving away Lynn’s belongings and Spring is taking part in it. It is time for FBC – Festus Crystal City to rise to the level of a New Testament Church.

Is this Kerry’s retribution for his sons telling a fraction of what they know about the investigation, and the circumstances surrounding it?

Is this Kerry preparing the house for Spring Thomas’ to move in soon? Is he preparing for marriage so there will be no chance of them having to testify against each other in court; should that day arrive, and many think that day is right around the corner.

Is Spring thinking through what this is doing to innocent grandchildren? To Kerry’s sons? Spring has told sources that she wants healing to take place between Kerry and his sons; as if healing is possible while Kerry continues to act in hurtful ways toward his sons with Spring’s help.

John 13:35 says “By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.”

Is Kerry Messer showing love for anyone other than himself?  He has completely cut off his children, grandchildren and in-laws.

            “If we say we have fellowship with him while we walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth. But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus his Son cleanses us from all sin.” (1 John 1:6-7)

Please put an end to First Baptist Festus Crystal City’s part in harming Abram and Aarron Messer and cooperating with Kerry’s treatment of them.

Why is FBC-FCC having fellowship with someone who has a pattern of walking in darkness (talking a good talk, but telling a different story with his walk)?

Dear Church, you have biblical grounds to excommunicate this man from your fellowship based solely on the way he treats his sons, daughter-in-law, and grandchildren.

 

I, Carolyn, did hear from a member of First Baptist Church Festus/Crystal City last week. Here are some excerpts from the correspondence:

“As soon as Kerry’s relationship with Spring was confirmed, Kerry was removed from his positions as deacon and Sunday school teacher. He was told that he was not allowed to have any roles in the church, only being allowed to attend services. He has no influence whatsoever. I can understand the frustration of the sons to feel like church leadership didn’t go far enough with their discipline. Banning Kerry from the church and announcing his allegations in front of the congregation isn’t the most logical way to handle the situation.”

Then will someone please tell me why God included in his Holy scriptures the precedence for removing people from the fellowship when unconfessed and unrepentant sin is involved?

Does church leadership understand that children, young adults, and abusive husbands are all watching and getting the message that the church doesn’t believe marriage vows and biblical mandates to deal with sin are as sacred as our Lord intended them?

 I believe that the pastor shares the same hope that I do that someday Kerry will feel true conviction and repent for what he’s done. The pastor just doesn’t feel like removing him from the church completely is the right thing to do. The hope is that Kerry will feel true conviction and decide to come clean and repent.”

If this were the case; waiting for the person to feel true conviction; God would not have included scriptures for how to correctly administer church discipline.

The family’s understanding is that the church did not make the above actions known to the church membership, but instead did it quietly.

Months ago, Abram and Aarron privately went to Pastor McClain after unsuccessfully confronting their father in May 2015 about his pattern of deception and his extramarital relationship. Pastor McClain has refused to help.  Abram & Aarron have explained to Pastor McClain that their father has persistently not told the truth to them or to the readers of the Find Lynn Messer page or to the local congregation at First Baptist Church Festus-Crystal City. They have explained that Kerry was already in an extramarital relationship with Spring Thomas just six weeks after Lynn disappeared – a relationship he rationalized to detectives as being necessary because he was use to having sex several times per week.  Pastor McClain should by now know that Kerry and Spring are not cooperating with the investigation. Also, that Abram and Aarron have begged their dad to come clean and come to repentance. It appears Pastor McClain continues to provide support and guidance to Kerry Messer. The Missouri Baptist Convention has separated from Kerry Messer. Samaritan Ministries has separated from Kerry Messer.  Even Families for Home Education (FHE) after considerable deliberation has finally separated from Kerry Messer. We would like to know, why is First Baptist Church Festus-Crystal City continuing to act on Kerry Messer’s behalf in what looks like, and family believes is, his continued deception?

Let’s pray that your pastor does the right thing.  We call on him to cancel the service on August 20 and refuse to participate in Kerry’s plans.  We can understand that he may want to have a service for Lynn’s friends, but allow us to remind you that they were invited to Lynn’s memorial service held in December 2016. We call on your pastor to go to Kerry and make an attempt at calling him to repentance.  We call on Pastor McClain to stand up for Abram and Aarron Messer and their families as Kerry gives away precious, irreplaceable belongings of their mom.  If your pastor does not act, then the church must.  Now is the time for action.

Please contact the church and encourage them to stand strong and take action:

charles@fbcfcc.org
firstbaptist@fbcfcc.org
Thank you for your time,
Friends of Lynn Messer

*This case is of public interest. Kerry Messer is a public figure who fund raises from the citizens of Missouri to provide professional and personal finances through his organization  Missouri Family Network.  Lynn Messer’s sons and extended family continue to point out moral and ethical issues they have witnessed by Kerry Messer. I do not write these posts or publish letters as a professional in any field of expertise, but rather to educate my readers from the life experiences through which I have lived. See the disclaimer in the side margin.

Click link ‘LYNN MESSER’ in margin for more articles.

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12 thoughts on “A letter to Lynn Messer’s church

  1. Rosanne Hall says:

    I believe the pastor is what psychologists call a “flying monkey”(someone who is doing the bidding of the narcissist). And to the ones who are pleading him to come to repentance please note that most likely this is futile.

  2. Evelyn Jsckson says:

    I think it is wrong to attack Pastor McLain for doing the Godly thing. He is not Kerrys judge or anyone else’s.
    Whether Kerry is guilty is not for us to judge. Jesus said, anyone who has no sin,
    let him throw the first stone.
    God will judge Kerry for his sin as He will us.
    Pastor McLain is a great Christian man and God will also judge those who put blame on him for what he does in God’s name. He is not responsible for Kerrys actions. I believe Satan is controlling what Kerry does.

  3. Karma says:

    Is it the “Godly thing” to turn his back on Lynn’s sons and their families? And is the “Godly thing” to condone and even help plan a memorial without involving the honored woman’s precious sons and grandbabies??? I guess I will be judged because I feel strongly that he is doing the biding for Kerry to help crush the spirits and deeply hurt the sons and grandchildren that Lynn loved so completely.

  4. Anonymous says:

    As God is the judge of ALL men, He will judge the actions of all involved in this tragedy. We love and miss Lynn tremendously, but attacking the church will not solve anything; it just opens the doors for Satan to work his evilness. Now is the time for prayer and to stand firm against the tides of hell.

  5. Anonymous says:

    I think the Pastor should do the Godly thing and just speak to the public and give his side of reasoning. I can see where he wouldn’t want to ban anyone from church but he shouldn’t befriend and condone Kerrys bad behavior either. I just hope there is no money involved….since money is the root of all evil.

  6. Anonymous says:

    Matthew 18:15-17 and I Corinthians 5:1-13 give instructions for church discipline and even the expulsion of unrepentant church members. There is definitely Biblical basis for church discipline of Kerry, and if he is guilty of having an affair, of expulsion as well. And I for one, believe it is right to do so, and don’t understand why pastor is not taking action. It is his GOD GIVEN DUTY TO DO SO!

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